I havent seen my boyfriend for about 10 days now(ever since his daughter(17) came and stayed at his). She is known as a trouble maker. In this time he hasnt hardly been in touch and hasnt bothered to come and chat with me at work to come and let me know where i stand(i had to go to him). He told me to give him space and it's like he couldnt wait to get away from me fast enough. He mentioned that his daughter was calling him a perv and that going out with me because he's a bit older,so now i'm wondering if she's got him thinking and now he dont want to be with me because of what she said. I havent met her but i'm already starting not to like her. Should i forget about him or wait and see what happens?should i be distant with him at the xmas work lunch next week?
2006-12-12 18:46:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've got 'any' sense at all you'll drop him like a hot potatoe.
If this man 'really ' cared about you he would never ignore you like he has been doing.
If his daughter got to him just because of your age difference,
then I'd say she sure knows how to control him.
And in that case, you're better off without either one of them.
I'm sure this daughter has some influence over her father,
simply by the fact that he's just stopped coming to see you.
And 'needing space' is one of the oldest 'cop outs' there is.
What he's actually telling you is: 'he dosn't want to be with you'..
Hopefully you're smart enough to know that he is 'NOT' worth
your time..
2006-12-12 19:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you've been involved with him, or what kind of relationship you have, and those are important for a good answer here.
If you two have been together for a long time, and are thinking in possible living together/married... you need to talk to him now. A child should never dictate terms to a parent. That is simply unacceptable as long as that child lives under the parents roof or is taking money from the parent.
On the other hand, if you've been dating a short time, no long term relationship, then you should back off and let him have time. Its his daughter, and family must come first. Hopefully he'll see through what she's doing/overcome his issues, and everything will be fine.
Just my .01
-dh
2006-12-13 02:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll give you the same answer I gave another time you have asked this same question and thought the other 4 times you asked it:
Giving him space is a good idea since he is already gone. He's not your boyfriend any more in his mind, just in yours. I'm sorry :-( If he wanted to keep you, he should have stayed in contact with you, so it sounds more like he is done and moved on. You could always dedicate the Trick Pony song Now Would Be the Time on his radio station if you are unsure he has given up, but it sure sounds like it to me.
Sorry hon, it isn't easy, but it does get better.
2006-12-13 02:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is trying to split you up, but you continue and successfully ressurect the relationship, she will be a real pain in the *** for you lol. I've seen it first hand, most people (especially that age) don't want a new "parent" in their lives, and it will take bloody ages to even get her to accept you or even like you despite you not really doing anything. I'm 17 and i ahve step parents but i was nice but i'm a guy. We whine less jk :P
So with distance, it depends whether you want to make things work with him or not. If you do decide to do so (revive the relationship with this guy), ur gonna hate his daughter my word... If you can take that challenge of dealing with her and u want the guy then go for it. You haven't seen her yet so maybe give it a chance....
2006-12-13 02:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just call and ask HIM instead of asking the same question over and over again in yahoo answers?
From the sounds of it, he has already broken up with you but has failed to let you in on the secret.
I wouldn't blame his daughter though, perhaps having his daughter around made him realize a few things.....
The only way you are going to find out what you want to know is ask HIM.
2006-12-13 02:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by slick chik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what's going through his head? I wouldn't pin it on the daughter, though. She has her reasons for protecting her Dad, but it's your BF that needs to grow a backbone. I would NOT be distant, however, I would treat him like anyone else. No more or less special than the next person. He sounds a bit wishy-washy to me.
2006-12-13 02:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now if he sounded like he wanted to get away from you then cut the ties girl! Ever heard of the expression--blood is thicker than water? Sounds like the whole thing is down right miserable and you dont want to get into that do you? So go on, get out and get your groove on, his loss darlin'!
2006-12-13 02:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by nurse33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOST KIDS FEEL ANGRY WHEN THEIR PARENTS DATE OTHERS. BUT HEY WHY IS HE ACTING THIS WAY? THE GIRL HASN'T MET YOU YET. MAYBE WITH TIME YOU MIGHT LIKE EACH OTHER. IF HE IS NOT SURE OF GOING ON WITH THE RELATIONSHIP, LET HIM NOT USE HIS TEENAGE DAUGHTER WHO MIGHT BE IN LUV WITH SOMEONE HERSELF AS AN EXCUSE.
2006-12-13 03:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by zayn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want you enough, to at least call or come over and see you, I think you are better off without him
2006-12-13 02:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be distant. Just plain out tell him that while he is having his space you will be dating other men.
2006-12-13 02:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋