I want to get back with my gf. We broke up because she cant commit to the relationship. I know she still have feeling for me. But she just do not want to have a relationship right now. She once told me that she will feel very stressed if there are people waiting for her. She tell me to take a break but i screw it. I told her that we should just break. I was rather angry at there time. I cry and called her on the phone. she told me that she wasnt ready to commit. How can i get her back?
2006-12-12 18:27:05 · 10 answers · asked by Confused123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Exactly what don't you understand? This person has given you a clear message---why not honor it and move on. CRY? Good god, how pathetic---you sound like a failure at manipulating. Grow up and get a grip. Surely a girl for you is out there.
2006-12-12 18:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're feeling really depressed about the break-up. The fact that she's reluctant to go into a relationship means she really want a break-up even if she still have feelings for. You should leave her alone and let her sort things out. She might be having some problems right now in her life and you're not making it any better by naggin' her. Tell her you're sorry for forcing her just now and explain to her you want to be her friends this period. Whatever you do to console her to get her out of the shell, say you're doing it as a friend. Nothing more. If she begins to appreciate you, she will accept you back into a relationship.
2006-12-13 02:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by eTerNal_sAnDwIcH92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are hard and some peepz just arnt ready for that just yet sorry to say. But heres the thing, from what you said, you have 2 options here:
1) You wait...waiting is freaky here, if it works out voila all goes your way, the sun shines again. But the dwn fall is that if you wait and it doesnt work out, all that hope and time you put into her, will ruin you, it'll shatter you and put you ina deeper hole than you already are.
2)You dont wait, yu move on..ks you may not want to move on but from what it seems, itz ur best bet. Im not sayin this will happen or this will not, itz all on fate, but One day she may realize that you arnt there and finally realize she lost someone precious to her. And on that day it may just be too late. You mite be with some1 that wants your love and will love you in return. If theres a day that she wants you back and be commited, trust me when i say go home and re think it. Dont just openly have your arms opened for her, go home and rethink things cuz to trust some1 who broke your heart once will take 3x the heart to trust them not to break it again. And if she breaks it again, your 3x worst than be4 : /.
2006-12-13 02:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhmm....i think the only thing u could really do is to giv her the time she needs--u cant really force her into a relationship.
giv her time n a bit of space...but make sure u are always around when she needs u. let her know that ur still waitin for her when she's ready. turn urself into her best friend, then she might not make it a bid deal bout "committing" ...she'll get to know u better n change her mind.
good luck!
2006-12-13 02:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Perez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think first, before getting into anymore relationships..u need to work out your personal issues. Counseling/therapy or something. Relationship and personal problems can sure be a mess. Clean up and look for a relationship. Most of the time, girls don't wanna babysit boys and their problems.
2006-12-13 02:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by jcsas_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be patient and respect her wishes. Don't push her or else you may lose her completely. In any relationship, it is good to respect one's wishes. I'm very sure when she's ready, she'll come to your arms. Meanwhile, keep yourself busy by doing things you enjoy most. This would ease any pain or discomfort you may have.
2006-12-13 02:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should take cool n give her time to consider.maybe she's many commitments now n got no spare time to entertain u.love is love,don't use force.it'll come to u naturally.so be patient n of course u must constantly contact her in phone or personally to show of ur concern on her.
best wishes.
2006-12-13 02:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience, ready and be open.
Dont rush on her to be your gf, lend her a hand first and say you honestly want to help her. help what you can and try to make her happy.
When she's ready, then you make your move.
2006-12-13 02:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn to be more forgiving
2006-12-13 02:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by spanky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't, move on and find someone new
2006-12-13 03:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋