well my girl just broke up with her old b/f like about 3 months ago and she asked me if its ok if they talked on the phone. im not sure if she is still over this dude and he comes to her house and stuff when ever he wants so yeah hmmmmmmmm. i dont know what to do so i need some help what would you do???
2006-12-12 18:09:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can understand if they talk randomly, but coming over whenever he feels like it....i dont know ': /
i would hav to say, talk to her n let her know that u are feelin a bit uncomfortable w/ what the guy's doin (comin over, etc.) tell her that u trust her, but not the other guy, so u want to set boundaries --no commin over to her house-- if he wishes to speak w/ her, he can do it over the phone.
i wouldnt recommend just brutin out, NO he you cant talk to him or see him. period. let her know why it bothers u so that she may understand--girls tend to get really offensive when a guy "wants" them to do (stop doing) sumthing.
good luck
2006-12-12 18:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Perez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think this is right at all. I would say she does still have feelings for him because it was only 3 months ago that they broke-up. I would say you were the rebound man, sorry to be so honest. It usually takes 6 months or more for a woman to be over a person she was dating, then again you did not say exactly how long they were dating. If it was only a couple of weeks, I would say you have nothing to worry about. If it was for a like a year, then, yeah, you were the rebound guy.
2006-12-12 18:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's cool at all even though it may sound kinda selfish for me to say this. It's only been 3 months since they broke up, that's not long.
You should talk to her nicely and express how you feel. Maybe talking on the phone isn't that bad as long as it's not like 7 times a day, but for the dude to come over, I think that just crosses the line.
2006-12-12 18:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like it usually. You two have only been dating 3 months or less, so I wouldn't get serious if she started talking to him. But I'm different, I move a lot slower before calling it a relationship, based on the woman's actions.
2006-12-12 18:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since no one declared you king of the world, anyone can talk to anybody when ever they want to. The more it upsets you, the more she will probably do it. Why not find someone else if you don't trust her. Get the big picture here---you have the answer---just accept it.
2006-12-12 18:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the problem,? who does she spend here quality time with, if it's not you then maybe you should consider another relationship, and most of all you must look at the person to whom your talking about and answer that question for yourself, my x wife and I are both remarried but still remain BEST friends
2006-12-12 18:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.. 3 months is still a short time.. you cant deny the fact that she still have some feelings for him.. and to avoid developing that, you must not let her talk to her ex that much...
2006-12-12 18:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because her ex wants to have sex with her.when they talk i'm sure her ex talks sexually to her.i would tell her that you're talkin to your ex too & see her reaction - if she gets mad tell her she can't say nothing cuz she's doin the same thing. let her fell insecure & see how crappy it feels to have someone she cares for do that to her!
2006-12-12 18:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - not cool. Tell her to cut that sh*t out. Either she is with you now, or with him. I told my girl that it was NOT cool to accept her old bf's text messages and phone calls. What is the point? What is she gaining from it? Nothing. Tell her to cut it out if she wants to continue things with you.
2006-12-12 18:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jon S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is very essential to a relationship and I think that you should tell her that you trust her and she should please live up to that. If she is being dishonest then it would eat her up and she would tell you what's really going on. You shoud trust her anyway before you accuse.
2006-12-12 18:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋