I've been chatting with a man online for a year. He sent me one photo of himself. That is all. Due to the bad press in the news recetly, I am starting to think he is involved in a scam. He may be aiming to scam me. He denies it. He knows I am semi-angry now and I do not know if blow him off or what.
He says he lives in the states and in working overseas now.
He says he is interested in me, but I do not trust his word now. I have been burned by being too trusting. I have too many red flags coming up in my mind now.
I have google his name, employer, hotel, etc...
Is there anyway I can find out for sure? What questions can I ask to get him to divulge the truth?
2006-12-12 18:08:02 · 6 answers · asked by strong1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are suspicious, I would trust that gut instinct.
2006-12-12 20:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a serious relationship, I think that the internet is the wrong place to do that...
My suggestion is if you want to meet him; meet him in a public place and bring someone along with you.
Since most everyone know the dangers of untruthful people on the internet, he should understand that you want a friend to come along... If this guy is really interested in you then he'll understand and respect the fact that you want to feel safe.
From there you'll have to be the judge. Just be really careful.
2006-12-13 02:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is looking to scam you you probably can't get him to divulge the truth. Personally, I can't see making a real relationship w/ anyone from online. He could be just like you, trying to find someone but until you meet him in person and get to know him in person I wouldn't trust him.
2006-12-13 02:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first let me say i met my wife in online chat..so i have an idea what your going through. she had friends e-mail me and message me claiming to have been old chat mates to see how i responded. until you meet in person trust will be hard, you can ask to talk to friends or relatives that are in the states, get a few phone numbers
2006-12-13 02:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by married man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im afraid u cant really tell. :(
...id say, trust in our own instincts--u said u hav "many red flags coming up" -- do just move on, specially if uve done what u said uve already done n still have second thoughts
good luck n be careful :)
2006-12-13 02:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Perez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok tell him ..........ask him the street names .....wherehe lives ....n everythin dat comes to ur mind........
1 more thin ......after these talks r over .....U start some dirty talks ....dont take it seriously but tlaks like . I LOVE U DEAR ...........i wanna see u .....i wanna have _ _ _ ........if he also starts talkin dirty than on the spot leave him......but if he tells u dat dont talk dirty tlaks .....than he is a good man....i hope u underatood.........i am trying to save ur life nothin else...
i also have a gf........but she is very sweet
gud luck
2006-12-13 02:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by Smarty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋