My partner argued on the phone with his mother 2 days ago about our plane to get married.HIs parents offered us to pay for it with a limit of 5000$(we live in LA,,very expensive here).
We arranged for a nice wedding on a boat for 5000$ with nomore than 30 guests in order not to make them pay more than the amount they offered us.
But his parents invited extra 20 people friends of them so we can t have a wedding on the boat cause we re out of the 5000$.
So we asked them to cut from the list their friends that we dont even know in order to be able to have the wedding we like with the family and few of our friends on the boat.
They complained very badly about our request and started to say we are selfish.
THe mother (very fake old lady) started to blame me ....while she was talking on the phone with my fiance'she said that i m rude and i want them spend money and i washed brain him. Ssays i want their money...what can i do?they re even not rich..what can i do?she wont even talk to me
2006-12-12 17:59:02 · 10 answers · asked by manolaxox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
lets be honest here your marrying the son not the mother so do what you think is best
2006-12-12 19:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that much of a problem, I wouldn't even go so far as to let them pay for a thing that involves your wedding! If I were you, I would ensure that you saved that kind of money up, for a year, and plan it out, yourselves, considering this appears to be a headache, when the 'In-Laws" get involved, who you may not get along with.
Some In-Laws like to take control of the situation, especially if they don't feel comfortable with their son/daughter's partner! It's a cruel world, but you need to make sure you tell your In-Laws that this is YOUR wedding day, NOT theirs! They need to be more respectful of that, and know that if there is a limitation to what you can or can't spend, then maybe it's in the best interest of you and your fiance, that you take matters into your own hands, and do it, yourself, that way you have total control.
2006-12-13 02:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the 21st Century we don't need to rely on our parents to pay. In the 20th, your parents got stuck with the bill. If they aren't around or able to help you, then you have a few choices...
1. Have your man talk to his mom and see if he can explain to her how important it is to HIM that this wedding goes as HE wants it. Any mama's boy's mama should get that at least a little.
2. Pay the difference yourself. Considering the first $5000 you aren't out, that shouldn't be too bad.
3. Tell them to take their money and shove it. Pay for the whole thing yourself and tell them that they can't buy you.
Good luck, I'm sure you will have more questions as this relationship progresses.
2006-12-13 02:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by Leslie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much is your budget? Take that and the money they offer you and plan a great wedding. It is possible to save money during planning. This wedding is for the two of you...Yes....but remember that parents want to show off their children. Bragging rights, for lack of a better term. You can save a lot of money in a lot of ways.
Or the two of you can fly to SANDALS resort and have a wedding for the two of you.
Suggestions: In San Diego...(not to far) The Red Lion Hanalei Hotel (Has killer wedding packages that include flowers, cake, food, etc.)
2006-12-16 04:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by basura5150 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents offered to give you $5,000 for the wedding. That is VERY generous of them. For you to take their money and say "Thanks, but you can only invite 10 people" is pretty rude.
Just because they gave you $5,000 does not mean that you can't go over that limit. Just pay for some of your wedding yourselves.
2006-12-13 12:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this situation is give them back their money and pay for the wedding yourself that is only solution to your problem and limit your contact with them.
Good luck!
2006-12-13 05:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness! I would just talk to my fiance and tell him that we should pay for it ourselves and have the wedding that we want! Its YOUR day! Do whats best for you!
2006-12-16 19:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by tawannajones2217@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of two things . inform everyone its your wedding and your choice. if they don't like it they don't need to come and spoil it for you . or two . catter to their selfish wish's. its you wedding not theirs . you can remind them he you are getting married reguarless if the family members like it or not . honey you have the right to be happy on your special day . stand your ground. they can get over it . sooner or later . be there or they can miss it . their choice .
2006-12-13 03:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by single-rose@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your close friends and family and go to Vegas, everyone can cover their own costs and you can leave the old biddy her cash........but remember this...........this is the family you are marrying into......think about it.
2006-12-13 02:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to marry into this family? What are you thinking?
2006-12-13 02:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋