I was just cought out for cheating in the past i didnt have the same feelings i have for her now i need her in my life she is like my other half i dont know what to do i know she loves me still and cares about me but she is fighting herself i need her back she comes back from college on thurs and i think we are going to hang out what should i do to show her im diff. and i wont do it again cause i wont. I really need advise what do you guys think i should do.
2006-12-12 17:34:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cheating liar.......you will cheat again...
and I hope you never get her back........you got what you deserve.......No sympathy from me. Why did you dishonor her and yourself and your relationship?
2006-12-12 17:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by LucySD 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes show her that u are different. do not expect her to talk back to so fast, because her feelings will not let her. let her know that u will spend as much time with her and if she is not ready to start the relationship again let her know that u will still be her friend. to make it look even better still don't talk to anyone while u are friends no matter how long it takes. b4 u go see her u need to get you mind right and think about her feelings. u need to think if u and her was to get that relationship back would u cheat again. don't make the same mistake over, cause the next time there will be no more chances. so her that the time u have on your hands is spent on work and not on other girls. u can do that by calling, being around her, and staying low key when it comes to situations that might look like you are cheating. tell her how u feel and respect her wishes. i hope u did change and by saying that good luck.
2006-12-13 01:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by nates_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Of all That Is Pretty messed up, and believe me she will have a hard time forgiving you!!...(BEEN THERE).....second of all if you really want her back, you need to show her that you really care for her, and do something that makes her feel special!!....you need to show her that you are truely sorry for what you did...And That IT Will Never happen Again!!....and if she does still have feeling for you, then she might give you a second chance, but if she truely believes that it wont work out, or doesnt think you will change, then I DONT KNOW WHAT TO TELL YOU!!....There is really nothing that you can do to guarantee that she will come back to you!!!...it is all up to her.....Cause Knowing that You Have Been cheated on is one of the worst feelings in the world!!!...believe me, it sucks, and you will never know, until it happens to you!!!......I Know Everyone deserves a second chance, but if you screw that 1 up.....then you really dont deserve her!!....but anyways good luck with your "PROBLEM"
2006-12-13 01:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Stormy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, remember that you are in the wrong. Just because you didn't have the same feelings for her then does not justify your behavior. If you haven't apologized, without any excuses, you need to.
Second, you have damaged the trust in your relationship. As much as you may want to fix everything, nothing but time will rebuild trust. Expect things to be different for a while and don't push too hard for immediate forgiveness.
And finally, tell her you love her. Don't make promises, don't buy her things, don't invade her space. Just let her know that you care deeply about her.
2006-12-13 01:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by mara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no guarantees in life so don't make promises. what i can tell you is that you go up and talk to her and be honest about your feelings. it's all about honesty - nothing else. the more you go around the bush, the less trusting she will be. ask her to give you another chance. but importantly, don't keep telling her how sorry you are. show her through action. that is the only way you can win a person back (if ever she really does love you). action speaks louder than words.
2006-12-13 01:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was really bad to me too. Recently he came in contact with me and told me how stupid he was and realized that I was the one for him. Honestly, if I had not learned to forgive those who have hurt me I would have never even talked to him, but I was willing to give him a second chance. He has been great to me now and has proved to me he really loves me and is really sorry. We have been taking things super slow and he does everything he says he will do. He calls me when he says, e-mails me everyday, tells me he loves me. I see that he has changed and I know guys are dumb when they are younger.
How you can get your girl back is a toughy because there is not a one answer solution. It truly depends on her. But you should give her time and admit to your wrong doing for starters. Don't rush her into anything and tell her you will wait for her. Be completely honest and vulnerable if you have to. Prove to her that you have changed by not doing the same things you did before.. Some girls just won't go back to someone who did them wrong, but I honestly feel that me and my ex are meant to be together. And I realize we all make mistakes in our lives. Hopefully, yours did not cost you your girl.. good luck and stay positive, the past doesn't have to determine the future.
2006-12-13 01:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't cheat on her in the first place. Anyway, as the saying goes, you don't know what you got till it's gone. Show her how much you love her and how you regret cheating on her. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-12-13 01:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay it all out there to her. That's all you can do. Hope she accepts it. If not, there is unfortunately little else to do on your part. In that case, be nice and give her space and time to dwell on how much she misses you (or not).
-- you can bring a horse to the trough, but you can't make it drink.
2006-12-13 01:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply tell her you where drunk and didnt know what you where doing. and say you love her more than anything
2006-12-13 01:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a girl
2006-12-13 01:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by russ G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋