I hate when people smile at me especially woman it makes me. It makes me feel like someone is trying to play?

Question

dangerous games with me. Whenever someone smiles at me I unconiously make a angry face at them and that makes me feel good inside.Somtimes when I am depressed or in stress I make angry faces at people. I suddenly feel good inside. I realize I don't need anti-depresents pills,because my new techniqe works for me better then anti-depresent pills, but I lose friends when I make angry faces at them without them knowing the true reason , I make them. Is it ok to continune what I am doing?

Answer 1

You might want to try some different pills. You might also try talking to a professional who can help figure out why you are wired to have a feelgood emotion when expressing the opposite. They might even offer some sort of behavior therapy to reprogram your brain into aligning the inside of how you feel with the outside. I can understand your logic of why you want to continue feeling better, but you know the behavior has a detrimental outcome for you socially. I have a child who has to learn about emotions due to autism. I know she does things that make her feel better, although socially inappropriate or odd. Things like flapping hands, making odd noises, not being able to look people in the eyes, and so on. She knows what she's doing is not the way others do things, but it makes her feel better. The hard thing about helping someone like this is the tendency for them to get in a comfort zone so deep that it's hard to change the pattern that works for them.

The way you misinterpret a smile is really on the paranoia scale. You need to push yourself to get further answers. Don't stop until you get the kind of answers that help you. You can't set yourself up in a pattern that is going to cause you detriment in all areas of your life such as a job, school, or basically anywhere people might smile at you. The more it feels good, the more you want to do it. You have to begin to find ways to nip it in the bud or it can possibly really downspiral the more you train your brain to behave in this way.

Answer 2

Wow, you should never have gone off med's. Is it really so hard to believe that just because someone smiles at you. That they have some kind of motive behind it. I am Bi-Polar, I smile everyday at someone. because I know what its like to be miserable. In hope's that it might make one person's day brighter. What you have is a form of self-destruction. You feel pushing ppl away that you dont have to face the world. It doesn't work that way. If it's what makes you happy, then I suggest becoming a hermit. That way you cant ruin another persons day, just because you cant cope with life. there are anger management classes available. Maybe you should check into one of those. Good luck

Answer 3

They wouldn't smile at you if they knew how dark your heart is, would they. And that's the problem - you're unhappy but the smiles they give you are telling you to keep your problems to yourself. You need someone you can really talk to so they can get to know you. When someone really knows you and still smiles at you - dark heart and all - you will feel as if the problems that make you miserable are only a PART of you, that most of you is OK and worth knowing. You're afraid that if you return the kind attitude, people will feel invited to come close, and then you won't be able to talk, because you have only bad thoughts. You feel good when your scowl keeps them away, because you can avoid them being disappointed in you. Like I said, find ONE person who would REALLY like to know all about you - your dark as well as your light side.

Answer 4

It sounds like you need more help than we can give you here.
You have serious anger issues you need to explore with someone.

Answer 5

Your avatar is misleading. Shouldn't it be an angry face?

:-)

Answer 6

NO, GO TO WWW.DISCOVERY.COM, click on health please!

Take your medicine! Your new technique is not a good substitute.