I'm afraid of catching sexually transmitted diseases, and I am a loser, and a virgin.?

Question

23, virgin, loser.

Never been on a date. Girls haven't ever shown interest in me and I've given up on personal hygiene and appearance in general. I look like a wild man and I speak to nobody. Were it not for my nocturnal right-arm muscle building habits that are generously aided by the wonderful sights and sounds of my only world, the Internet, then I would also be morbidly obese.

In my younger days I tried to look the part, tried to speak up, tried to get noticed... and the women did not show any interest.

What should I have done? What should I do? If I shave my mammoth beard and the mop on my head, what will change? I'll be more exposed to the elements and the cruel gaze of women and homosexuals alike. Worse than condemnation, all people will again be so uninterested in me that they will forget my existence the moment I'm gone.

I'm kind and generous, and, though quiet, I can appear confident. I'm not ugly (I don't think??), but average. I have nothing but pity to live 4.

Answer 1

Well you sound like a very witty intelligent guy that has a lot going for him/could have a lot going for him. You need to be confident in yourself, there is someone for everyone and a lot of times girls are interested in guys but are too shy and therefore the guy may not know. That is when you need to go out on a limb, approach a girl you are interested and then you need to ask them out.

Looks are not important, the inside is what truly matters (no matter how cliche that sounds). The right girl will like YOU for YOU. However, personal hygeine is VERY important to women. I want a guy that I date (and could see myself kissing and hugging) to be clean and to shower every day, brush his teeth, wear clean clothes, wear deodorant, shave, etc. I suggest you do a mini-makeover to boost your confidence and to give you a fresh new start. Maybe get a nice haircut and shave your "mammoth" beard as you call it! lol. Do not worry about what negative comments you fear others will think about you. You are probably worrying too much and if they do think or say negative things, they are the ones truly missing out. If you are kind and generous, and you are obviously intelligent, you should have nothing to worry about. Continue being the great guy you seem to be and remember to be CLEAN and confident and most importantly yourself. Remember you have to love and like yourself before someone else can! Good luck to you and God bless! :)

BTW, I am a 19 year old female that plans on saving herself for marriage and I do not consider myself a loser. It is my choice, as is being one is your choice. We all make our own personal decisions and choices and I am proud of mine. Be proud!! :)

Answer 2

You are 23 and should have a lot to live for. It would not hurt to get a hair cut if you want to although you probably would not want to shave your head. You can wear a beard if you keep it neat and trimmed. At 23 do you work? Are you able to work if so that would be a good start. Get out into the world. Being a 23 year old virgin does not make you a loser. Continue to be careful and if you decide to have sex you could both go get tested and even wait a while first. If you are looking for a woman i am sure someone could tame you if you put forth an effort. I will not and do not pity you!-WILD THING Get the bath and shampoo for starters.

Answer 3

I don't think you are a loser in the least bit. You are only trying to protect yourself from getting aids, or another worser std. I think you are being smart about this and you should be proud of yourself for caring, so much about your health. It's okay to still be a virgin at 23. It's best to lose it to someone you really love and want to spend the rest of your life with. When the right time comes and you are readly to lose your virginlity then you will know it. Make sure it is with the right person. I don't think you should change one thing about yourself, because it sounds like you have good traits. If someone doesn't love you just the way you are flaws and then they really don't deserve your love in the first place. I hope this helps you in some way. If you ever need some advice about anything, or just want to talk you can email, or IM me at [e-mail]
your friend,
April

Answer 4

Wow. I think maybe you tried too hard before. You went from one extreme to the other. You should stop concentrating on having/not having a relationship. Go out and find a hobby. Go lift weights and read books. Chic love muscles with brains. Not a guy who whines on Yahoo Answers about being a virgin. And there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, unless it's not by choice. lol.
Seriously, you have to stop being a pu$$y to get any. Why would anyone be interested if you don't ever do anything interesting! Good Luck!

Answer 5

and that is why you have nobody, because you consider yourself a loser

confidence is what makes people notice you, CONFIDENCE

never say you are a loser,

you say "i am a winner, the world is mine, my world"

grab the world by the throat and make it give you what you want, not sit and cry and whine about how pathetic you are.

shave the beard and the mop, get some new clothes, then go to a bookstore and start getting an education in whatever interests you, not education in the formal sense, but go in and read a book or two or something.

be so overwhelmingly confident that it somes out of your pores and makes people faint and pass out if they come too close to you


CONFIDENCE
CONFIDENCE
CONFIDENCE

thats about all i can say

Answer 6

now its obvious you are being sarcastic but lets do the math,if you subscribe to the 3 date rule ,which is about average to bed a female these days thats 6 dinners @ 20 each and at least 10 gallons of gas @$3 each and maybe a pair of movie tickets @ $9 ea. so thats 120+30+18 thats $168.00 and no popcorn deserts or frills and your time is worth something also ,so is it safe to say one could have as much as $250.00 tied up in "DATING" and hoping? Now lets look at the "SURE THING" ,if you find the "NEW ARRIVAL" down at the shelter and she is not too strung out yet ,you can have it DELIVERED ,just like pizza, for way less and you can RELAX and let them EARN IT!!!

Answer 7

I used to say that I hope we don't judge the intelligence of our country by the service or lack there-of from our fast food establishments. Lots of teens rotate through these jobs while in school and we as a nation frequent them a lot.

Thats how I came to this conclusion. Now it looks like the brighter ones have migrated to this forum. I wish the best for you. Good luck.

Answer 8

Hon,I think you should give it another try with the ladies. Trim your beard and hair and be you. If you are all those things you said,the right woman will come into your life. There is some one for everyone I believe and she just hasn't found you yet. Have you tried dating online since you seem to have a way with words and computers? I'd try it if i were you. And no,you are not a loser,you are just you.

Answer 9

Get off your pity-pot; clean up; shape up; start over. It's never too late and the fact that you realize you've let yourself get into this miserable condition should be enough to make you determined to get a real life going for yourself. You can do it. Get busy!

Answer 10

i don't think that ur a loser. i just think that u need to have a lil more confidence in who u are, and a lil more pride in ur appearance. I'm sure that there's someone out there 4 u. just keep ur head up and don't let life get ya down.