My best friend and i are both in the same physics class in college & her father is the instructor. I have known him for 3 yrs. He always seemed cheerful and happy but now he just seems depressed & sad. One day in lab I heard my friend say for whatever reason, "just shut up dad you're a total geek." Another day in lab she told him to "Drop dead" because SHE screwed up on an experiment, so he gave her a sad look and walked off. I go to her house sometimes where she is really mean to her parents. Her dad doesn't play favorites to her in class just because she is his daughter. She got a D on one of her tests & that day I was at her house, she griped at her dad & he told her to be quiet because he had enough so she screamed at him "I hope you DIE dad!" She does it all the time. In lectures, sometimes he looks like he cried tears before class. Im kinda worried he might be suicidal. My question is can you kill your parents by telling them you hate them & that u hope they die every single day?
2006-12-12 17:18:26 · 14 answers · asked by evillon7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your friend needs to have a big kick up the rear end
2006-12-12 17:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My question is - why are you friends with someone so totally selfish, cruel and disrespectful??? I am afraid that I would have to say something to this friend and if she refused to change her behavior then I would have to quit being her friend. Does she treat you or anyone else this way?? Does the School Administrator know anything of this situation??? It is possible to have her transferred out of her dad's class??? I would definitely check into it before something terrible happens and you are left feeling you could have done something more to rectify the situation.
2006-12-12 17:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever tried talking to your best friend about it? My guess is that she holds some kind of resentment towards her parents. People don't just act like that for no reason. If she is your best friend, them i'm sure she has some good to her. You need to find out whats really going on. (Although it may serve as an explanation for her behavior it is no excuse for her to act like that.) Just be supportive to you friend and hopefully she will open up to you about it. Don't take sides. Just be there to listen to her. You can't really do much unless you know whats going on, and even then, its within her family so there is not much you can do.
2006-12-12 17:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I should hope not, that telling your parent you wish they were dead all the time, My daughter tells me that all the time and I think I am very much alive.
What this man needs to do is get his daughter out of his class.
And YES he is playing favorites with her. Would he put up with anyone else in his class yelling at him like she does.? What would happen it she yelled at a different teacher the way she yells at her father. ?
2006-12-12 17:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a heart to heart talk with your friend and tell her she is really hurting her dad by talking to him like that,and maybe even give her example's of stuff you witness,because sometime's people need to have someone close to them, tell them how bad they are being and maybe it will make them really see how bad there action's are,some people don't realize when there being that way,just how really bad they are being,I know from personal experience,not with my parents,but with someone else,and my husband made me realize it wasn't only affecting that person but everyone I loved around me,because it was making me be bitter to everyone I knew,so sometime's it takes someone very close to you,to make you see thing's from another's perspective.And also remind her, that there's people out here,like me that don't even have my parent's alive no more to enjoy,and that she should be proud to still have her parent's there to enjoy,because one day she will wish she had them around still.You only have one Mother & Father and she need's to remember to honor and respect them while there still here.So my advice is to just set her down and try and talk to her about all this and hopefully you can make her understand how she is being and she really need's to change her way's,and maybe suggest if she has alot of anger in her for some reason to go get help for it,so she can not only make herself feel better on the inside ,but also her poor parent's.I hope this help's you alittle bit,GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-12 17:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by sd01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's depressed enough about her abuse, I suppose he might commit suicide over it. I'm really curious though - why would you be best friends with someone who acts like this? And please don't say, "Because other than that she's a great person," because even if that is true, this side of her makes her not worthy of anyone's friendship. I would tell her that I am very disturbed by her behavior and can't be friends with someone who acts like that. She's no great loss.
2006-12-12 19:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it would be no different then if you had it said to you every day. Very one feel the same in that way. And what it sounds like to me is she run that house so she is abusing her dad and that one day she to will most likly do it to her kids
2006-12-12 17:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't kill them but it is breaking his heart... she needs her *** kicked... what she is doing is s form of parent abuse and if she not careful they could turn there back on her fiancially and what is she going to do then... if my kids talked to me like that i always hit them hard where it hurt... cash. As her friend you might try talking to hima nd tell him he needs to take somepriviledges from her or allowances... just a thought and I hope this helps...
2006-12-12 17:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes because she is making him think he is better dead than alive your friend need mental health and if her dad dies she will hate her self for acting like a baby. he need to put her out of the house or put her into a mental health hospital. you need to talk to her and let her know that she need to stop acting like a spoil brat and grown up .
2006-12-12 17:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't know the answer to that because my dad would have choked me out if I would have ever talked to him or my mother like that. The reason she does that to her parents is because they allow it. If you want respect you demand it. She needs her a** beat!!!!
2006-12-12 17:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋