So my ex and I are talking about getting back together, we have been broken up for 6 months now and we are both still very much in love. One problem, she dated three other guys in those past 6 months and slept with each of them, I never took her to be so promiscuous but I guess I was wrong, I know I have no right to judge her but...I know two of the guys and one of them I absolutley despise. Should I suck it up and just deal with it, should I give myself time to heal and eventually with time it will fade, or should I just give up on love in search for a new one. I feel like im in a lose lose situation, I'm miserable without her but I feel I might be miserable with her thinking about what has happened...I myself have not slept with anyone! I am still in love with her and didnt think it was right to go out on the rebound..Any thoughts? I'm sure eventually i'll get over her, and maybe ill eventually get over whats happened...I feel like im in a pretty cruddy situation lol...
2006-12-12 17:14:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she has slept with another man I wouldn't take her back. If she cared for you at all she wouldn't be screwing everything she dated while you were apart. Best to just let her go because it doesn't sound like she is going to be there for you fully anyway.
-NmD!
2006-12-12 17:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea... your in a bad situation but actually if you think about it, what you two had is gone. It will never come back no matter if you get back with her or not. She was extremely promiscuous and you've seen a really bad side of her. Every time you go to bed with her you will think about all those other guys who have had their turn on her. Best thing you can do is grieve and move on. Whatever chance you two had of getting back together and having a happy life was killed by her. Good luck...
2006-12-12 17:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The major problem is age---these issues are common the world over---men have always left to return and the thoughts start flowing. The answer is all YOURS. Nothing is left to choose--either you want to return to her or you don't---you know these questions will always haunt you and will be a constant issue at every little disagreement. Go find someone else and remain her friend for a while. It's a big world and you need to get out and expand your horizons,,,stop dwelling on this issue and it will work its way clear. It is all up to you. Good luck
2006-12-12 18:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it didn't work the first time around and now you wish to go into the same place with bad feelings from the start?
wow, you really are confident about stupidity
just don't go into it, you have no right to judge her for what she did while you were not together, but what she did during that time is already affecting you anyway before you are even getting serious with her, imagine when you are serious with her in a relationship and your feelings about her past will be worse and harsher, do you really wish to put yourself and her through that kind of misery
2006-12-12 17:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tough one, been there too! I guess it depends on how much you really love her and how much your really willing to work on it. As well as her, it takes two to mess it or fix it! Just keep talking and let her know how you feel each time it even changes. She will work hard too if she wants it just as much. I know most guys cringe to the though but theres nothing wrong with going to talk to someone. Hope it all works out for ya and I wish you guys happiness!
2006-12-12 17:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by tenderheartbear_1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right,this situation sucks. i think if you are really in love with er the way you say you are then you can get over it. Most of what she did was probablt revenge especially the guy you can't stand. Some people go through that phase when they lose someone they care about it makes them not care about themselves either.I think if you two are in love then you should try to work it out. Think about which out-weighs which her mistakes,or your love.
2006-12-12 17:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ebony M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and it's hard. It time if you reallllyyy love her you'll get over it... It will help especially if these guys aren't in your circle of friends... like, I hope you won't be running into them often... Let her know how you feel and one of the stipulation of getting back is that she is to reasure you often that your the man... it helps if she is sympathetic to how you are feeling... If it's no big deal to her what she did... I would say it may not work... good luck and i hope this helps.
2006-12-12 17:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now you've seen her true colors. Are you sure you still want to go where those other guys have recently been? And you do have the right to judge... you can and should judge whether you want to go back to her. Now that you know what she is capable of doing, use your good sense. Is this the kind of woman you want to dedicate yourself to, who you want to have bearing and raising your children? Love is not enough. You have to look at factors beyond how you feel.
2006-12-12 17:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can you sleep with this girl knowing that she has been with so many different people.whats to say she only told you about 3 and theres more. whats to say she isnt infected with a disease. think about that next time you think of getting back with her. she is nasty. why kind of girl is she , sleeping with three diferent guys in 6 months>? gross.and then you, thats 4 guys in 6 months!!! leave her and get over her. you will find the right girl that will only be with you. good luck.
2006-12-12 17:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her go. She's tainted goods in your eyes. I can tell in the way you talk about her. Your done with her but your not ready to accept it. If you must hold on to her, perhaps just date her without commitment and see where things go. When I say date, I mean for you to go out with her and other girls too. I think you'll come out better that way.
2006-12-12 17:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by s_bodhi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋