We have 2 years dating, im 28 yrs old, i prefer to know what are the expectations that your couple have about you and him. So i let him know...(never ask, or begg) what im looking in a couple now, what im expecting in a relationship. What i told him was that for my future i want to have a family, and marry. I just wanted to be clear and to talk what im looking, but that doesnt mean that he has to marry me and have kids. Because each human has different goals and plans for future. So my only question or comment were i want this, i need this, we are at the same level for to continue or if not please allow me to looking in somewhere else, if you are not looking the same than me, it doesnt mean you or me are wrong is that just we are looking different things. It was a good idea for me to ask him what he is looking now?
2006-12-12 17:12:27 · 10 answers · asked by Giovanna P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. You need to know what he expects out of this relationship. I can't believe it took you two years to wonder this! Just sit him down and say "I want to know where things are going with us. How do you expect this relationship to go? What are some goals you have for us? etc." My bf of 8 months and I talk about this all the time, because it's important for people to be on the same page, or at least in the same book!
2006-12-12 17:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely yes! I agree with you 100%
I just went through the same thing. I told my bf that my goal
is to get remarried (we are both 40ish) and though I love him and enjoy our time together, I need to know if he is looking for the same thing that I am. Like you said, I am not saying he has to marry me, but I want to know if this is what he is looking for and if he has thought about where our relationship is going.
If two people do not have the same goals, they might have a lot of fun together and be in love and be compatible, but they will not totally fulfill each others needs.
2006-12-13 01:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that any question is a bad idea if the two of you are open and close and your question was well thought out and honest about your feelings. Sometimes, however, people can feel very pressured about these kinds of questions and not be able to answer to the best of their ability due to the stress of such a heavy duty question. Hopefully, your relationship is such that you will know how he will react to the pressure of that question and you will be able to interpret his answer accordingly. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
2006-12-13 01:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Krolitza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. Two years is plenty of time to invest in a relationship and you have the right to know what level each of you is on going forward.
2006-12-13 01:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very wise of you.
Most people wouldn't have the courage to do that. I think you did the right thing. Good communications between two people are essential, so you've tested both your communications skills and his, and you're looking into whether or not you have a future together.
After two years of dating, its definitely time to either move forward or get out.
-dh
2006-12-13 01:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it was ok. After 2 years he shuld have some clue of where he would like it to go. You have every right to ask this. If hes not ready then you decide to either wait and find out or move along and find the right one.
2006-12-13 01:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You need to talk about your future goals so you can both decide if this is the right thing for both of you.
2006-12-13 01:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Rick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its a very good idea 4 u to ask him. u gotta know these things.
2006-12-13 01:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by lilmisspriss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's ask him if you want to. U are right, learly thing is the better way
2006-12-13 01:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-12-13 01:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋