okay so the guy never asked me if it was okay to have sex, but i never said "no". It was all just pretty aggressive.... it kinda seemed like rape i dont know.... i never told him to stop though. We both went down on each other too. im so confused. Does this seem like rape?
2006-12-12 17:05:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hunny.
if you didnt say "no"
then its not rape...
It sounds like you wanted it to me.
2006-12-12 17:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by FairChild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RAPE IS FORCED SEXUAL BEHAVIOR. Sound as if you might have made a big mistake by not having sex for all the right reasons--it is supposed to be the ultimate expression of love. What do you say---it's not exactly a baby--or not exactly a disease? Come on, get with it. You know you need to stop this behavior until the time and the man are right. Have a sane conversation with him that you will no longer accept being in a situation with him where it might happen again---consider it a lesson. Better read up on sex and what it really is when 2 people are in love and ready. If he doesn't respect your wishes and you have these acts again because you were coeerced ---it is a form of intimidation and is rape--punishable by law--TELL HIM THIS and keep your distance. Be a nice girl and have a nice life.
2006-12-13 01:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was not rape, but I think it was something you were not prepared for. A man or women for that matter does not have to ask permission to have sex..........think about it "excuse me can we have sex?" usually isn't part of a normal conversation between two people in the heat of the moment.........especially if they have other things in their mouths........not to be crude buy once it progresses to this state "no" "NO" "NNNNNNOOOO" should have been shouted long before. I think you have some doubts and some regrets......Keep yourself out of these situations in the future.......but I think crying rape is the wrong thing to do.
2006-12-13 01:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not rape. It may have been rough intercourse, but not rape. You were enjoying it? Rape is not enjoyable I don't think. Rape is not about sex anyways, Rape is about anger. power and control. Next time speak up and say no if you feel uncomfortable, and if he still tries and succeeds then that is rape. Then he should be reported, but not this time.
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2006-12-13 12:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by bbwandsingle1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend was telling me that even if you have sex and dont say no, but still feel violated in some way, its still considered rape.
So its considered rape, but its not rape to the fullest extent. If you wanted, you could press charges probably, but thats up to you.
2006-12-13 01:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is........ now...... but dont know, whether u raped him or he raped u... . rape can be many ways. Nobody(if single person tries to) can rape a woman if she is not will to. Rape is not physical matter, its related to mental status. Think about a woman having many affairs or about a woman who married more than once.. If anyone willingly does sex then, as their willingness is involved, even if its wrong, they dont feel it as rape. and as i said if she is not willing then he cannot rape.
2006-12-13 01:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Nominds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never told him no then its not rape. If you really didnt want him doing this you should have spoken up and told him, and if you didnt want it you should have went down on him to get him thinking you were willing to go further. Sorry sweetie
2006-12-13 01:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never said no and both went down on eachother? Rape? Be serious! Had he paid you it would be closer to prostitution than rape.
2006-12-13 01:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, that's not rape. Aggressive doesn't mean forced, especially if you were playing along and didn't say no
2006-12-13 01:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
If you never said no, there's no way he could have read your mind. And the fact that you went down on him, means it was all voluntary. It wasn't rape.
2006-12-13 01:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Dana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - you never told him no- so you consented. Don't cry rape- mutual agreement. Maybe you regret it now but it was not rape.
2006-12-13 01:08:38 · answer #11 · answered by jyone scotani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋