Okay i literally LOVE this guy you might think taht a bit extreme since i'm young but seriously I do. Well we are really good friends but this year we were put in different classes and I never get to talk to him but I still have the same feelings maybe even stronger! anyways we started highschool and we havent talked in forever. But I still keep in mind that he only likes pretty girls and I'm not exactly pretty. I have brown wavy, curly hair, Greeny-Blue Eyes, Alot of Freckles and I'm not that skinny. Anyways today his best friend told me that he has a NEW girlfriend now here the selfish bit. It absolutely shattered me! Any Advice on how I can eventually win him over? Any Ways to subtley tell him how I feel? I know if I tell him how I feel he'll try to aviod me because he doesn't feel the same way.
2006-12-12 16:47:06 · 7 answers · asked by Giraffe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You won't believe this but you will have MANY loves in your life. You are in for a world of fun! I wouldn't tell him anything.. I'd just play it cool and see what happens (he has a girlfriend right? so wait it out).
AND.. you say you aren't pretty? I bet you are. You will look back on pics of yourself in time to come and say "Wow.. I was great".....
Coming from a person who's "been there done that" trust me..... take everyday as it comes.. you are in for a world of good times!
2006-12-12 16:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think right now would be a wrong time to tell him how you feel... expecially since he has a girlfriend, cause then it will make his girlfriend mad (if she finds out) and It will make him feel awkward... Its a hard situation since he does have a girlfriend and I think it would be best if you waited until him and his girlfriend broke up... But until then be happy for him, cause if you truely do love him then you should be happy that he is happy... I know exactly how you feel though, cause I've been there and done that and I know it's very hard.... but in the meantime, try to be happy for him and try to keep ya'lls friendship together, because maybe he will see that ya'll friendship and your personality is a lot stronger than some pretty girl with no personality... good luck, and just give it some time, things will work out...
2006-12-13 00:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one, just because you aren't that pretty (your words) shouldn't matter. Neither the fact that you aren't that skinny, which doesn't mean anything either. What's important is that you are a nice person, and that is all that matters. If all he goes for is "Pretty Girls" (Which I bet you are too, in your own way) means that he is shallow and sees only the surface. Real beauty comes from within, and the right guy will notice you for that fact. Make your inner beauty shine, and feel sorry for those who only go for the surface, but I have to tell you he isn't right for you. Oh yeah, here's a question for you, is he really cute and all that and a bag of chips too? Then maybe you are guilty of the same problems, of only going for what's on the surface, and maybe you should look around for someone who is nice, and who will treat you properly.
2006-12-13 00:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is someone special in your life, and you're already starting to think of him as a boyfriend. It's time to tell him what he means to you and ask him if he wants to explore being more than your trusty sidekick.
Before You Ask.
•STEP 1: Think about whether you are willing to stay together even if he only wants to keep your involvement casual.
•STEP 2: Consider the possibility that he is looking for something even more serious than what you have in mind.
•STEP 3: Have some idea of what you're looking for before you ask, so that you can stay on task.
•STEP 4: Find a special time and place for this important question. Make a date to go somewhere private and comfortable for both of you.
Professing Your Love - or Strong Liking
Instructions
•STEP 1: Tell him that you feel really good about the time that you spend together, and that you find yourself growing closer to him.
•STEP 2: Find out how he feels about your dating relationship and what direction he sees it taking.
•STEP 3: Share your interest in moving from going out together to something more long-term.
•STEP 4: Ask him to be your boyfriend, and explain what that means to you and how you believe that would strengthen you as a couple.
•STEP 5: Discuss what kind of commitment each of you is ready to make to the other. How will your dating relationship change? Are you agreeing to see each other exclusively, if you aren't already? Will you live together? Do you simply want to acknowledge that you have reached the next stage of the relationship?
Celebrating or Waiting
Instructions
•STEP 1: Relax in the arms of your new boyfriend, if he accepts.
•STEP 2: Give him some time to think about what he wants now if he cannot commit.
•STEP 3: Reconsider your needs, and whether they can still be met, if he says that things have been going so well that he doesn't want to risk changing anything.
•STEP 4: Be open and honest about your excitement, disappointment or concern related to his response.
•STEP 5: Allow for the possibility that either of you might change your mind.
Tips & Warnings
•Timing is everything. Ask your beau to be your boyfriend when it feels right, not when you reach your 21st date or third month of spending time together. Remember that if you care enough about him to seek more commitment, then you might want to continue enjoying what you have now and see how it grows over time.
•Coercion, ultimatums or other forms of pressure may get you what you want in the short run, but they typically do not lead to long-lasting relationships.
2006-12-13 00:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, care about yourself more. No one's better than you, sounds like you don't act confident. Also, you can't make a guy like you. If you are interested give him clear signals and see what happens, in the mean time explore the field. Good Luck.
2006-12-13 00:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bucky for Prez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe that you're pretty. Hang around people who tell you so, and try not to compare yourself to other girls. Confidence is very attractive. Strut your stuff, highlight your best characteristics, and you will turn his head.
In the meantime, be his friend and don't hang all your hopes on his response.
2006-12-13 00:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by mara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seduce him.
2006-12-13 00:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by fuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋