We were together 4 years and broke up 5 months ago. He says he doesn't want a relationship. He says he doesn't want to sleep with me because it's only gonna lead me on, but I am just wondering what it usually means when someone says this. I am the one who broke up with him originally and then I tried to get back with him after a couple months when I realized him I missed him alot and really did love him and by then he had changed to the point of telling me this. When I was feeling really down, I told him I would wait for him to want to be with me again, (I NOW REALIZE THAT WAS RIDICULOUS!) but he said that isn't fair to me and he doesn't know how long it would take. This has been very hard because he has been the love of my life and we shared so many years together. I keep hoping that he will open his eyes and realize that the other girls out there are just want to have a good time and don't really care about him. He says I'm the one he would want to marry if he wanted a relationship.
2006-12-12 16:42:45 · 32 answers · asked by tddvan69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's just making excuses or using you for a piece...sorry
2006-12-12 16:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, first off you broke his heart, so what do you think he's going to do, um I don't think he's going to jump right back in.You did this to your self, but if you really want him back you will have to show him that you really want him back.Don't knock down the guy for respecting either, cause he has to Love you if he don't want to lead you on with the sex.Just be honest with him and if you don't want to wait than just keep him as your friend cause it sounds to me you two are still.Maybe next you should really about what you want before you do something like that again, cause it sounds to me this man treated you very well, do you know how hard that is to find now a days?Let me leave you with this, Love is but a dream, but when you wake up and see its right in front of you, grab it and hold it dear to you heart cause you have only one time to find that.
2006-12-12 16:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tim O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me like he has decided that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. He may only have gotten back with you long enough to get to dump you as payback. Anyway, guys do not know how to tell a girl that they don't want things to continue so they will often times send mixed signals trying to make you feel better while they are on their way out. However, when he says he doesn't want to lead you on and he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he probably means that. Not to say he won't change his mind when he finds another girl, but he won't change it for you because he has decided it is over between you two. I know it really sucks, but just try to grieve and then find someone who wants to be with you and won't leave you waiting around.
2006-12-12 16:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by zyllee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have been in a relationship for almost three years and we have our problems, but it seems as if this guy is not ready for a totally committed relationship. He probably does love you and would marry you in a heartbeat, but he still wants to play the field. It will be hard, but when you are ready just be a friend to him when he needs you. He will come back, but do not EVER make it seem like you are waiting around for him. I hope this helped.
2006-12-12 16:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he is not ready to be in any kind of relationship...he wants to play the field and be with every girl that passes him by...basically he has you right where he wants you because by telling you that, that means he is only going to run back to you because it's either convenient for him and your his present he's putting aside on the back burner...The way I see it no female should come second to another women...Your young and you have your hold life a head of you so forget about him...enjoy your life and have fun like everyday is your birthday....Make yourself happy first before making a man feel like the king...remember you are the King and Queen of your domain and run it how you feel it should be run....hope this helps
2006-12-12 16:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Pink~Panther 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably got hurt of what you did, now he is confused if he still want that relationship because you might dump him anytime you want. He must be taking his time deciding either to get back to you or not. So leave him for now and wait if he will do the next move.
2006-12-12 16:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by odel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's one of the most ridiculous excuses I have ever heard from a man. BS!!! It is possible that during the time you and him split he got involved with another girl and now that you try to come back he says he's not ready to be in a relationship. He is trying to find a way out and doesn't know what the hell to say.
2006-12-12 16:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by prettyredd187 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What happened is that you let him go and he got him a taste of that single life. Some people are impatient and it hurts being on the dumpee end of the stick. He's gotten over you dumping him and probably wants to see what else is out there for him. Not saying that your not the one for him but now he probably wants to reassure himself that he's the one for you. At least you know he loves you and not out to use you.
2006-12-12 16:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means he has moved on, he cares for you and does not want to hurt you, but he is over what you had together. It may be hard, but you need think seriously about moving on as well. Sometimes there is just no going back, no matter how hard we want to.
2006-12-12 16:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kyanne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that he has found out what it is like to be single and realizes that he needs some time to find out just who he is, and what he wants in life. He is as the old fashioned saying goes sowing his wild oats.
2006-12-12 16:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by heartminder2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is saying exactly what he means don't try to read between lines that are not there. He still wants to see other people and when he is ready to settle with one girl he wants you to be there. Personally if a guy loved me he would do this crap in the first place he would want to stay with me but that is my opinion.
2006-12-12 16:46:44 · answer #11 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋