Well i have a bf, but i believe i am still in love with my ex bf, and i know he loves me bc hes been waiting 3 years one me. I wasnt allowed to be with my ex bc of age differences. I know i was in love with him cuz i have never felt this way about anyone. He(my ex) tells me he loves me everytime i talk to him. My current bf is kinda controlling me, he tells me what i can and cant do and who i can and cant talk to. If i am mad at him and dont wanna kiss him he will force me to kiss him anyway. In the begining i thought he was a great guy but now things arw going downhill and he is pushing me away. I wanna meet up with my ex to find out if im still in love with him and sort out my feelings but dont want any trouble. can someone please give me some advice?
please dont be rude.
2006-12-12 16:37:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
having feelings for an 'ex' is inevitable... you know what is true ultimately?? you live life for you... do what makes you happy... that is the key, ur happiness is more important than what is 'morally' accepted as correct, or incorrect... Life likes to smack at us at different angle... My advice to you is this.. be Honest, especially be Honest to yourself... know what you want... and ultimately, knows what you DO NOT want... in the end, the only person that have to deal with ur decisions in life are yours.... If you feel as if u r still in love with your EX... let your present bf knows... tell him, you dont think it is working out.. let it go... etc... move on... and BE HAPPY... do not lead yourself into a situation where you are cheating on your Present BF with your EX BF... in the end, everyone will not be happy.... be honest to yourself... know what you want, and everything else will fit into place afterwards...
2006-12-12 16:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two things.
1) its quite depressing knowing that a person is controlling your every way of living. a person who does that does not love you, is just doing so to have the assurance he can have power over someone and not care what they are doing.
2) meet up with your ex as friends. if there are feelings think about it. then see if you love him and see if something can happen. if you find that you do not love him, do not keep the guy you are with because thats as good as you will do.
just think what you believe your heart wants.
you say you never felt the way you feel with anyone, what prove do you need. you love him, the guy you are with is just controlling your emotions. do not let him control that for thats what matters in a person, their will to love
2006-12-13 00:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to separate the two. It sounds like your current boyfriend is not the right guy. Break up with him first. Then give it a week, and see how you feel. If you still want to see your ex, give him a call. You'll be free and clear of your current entanglements, and can explore what is left of your previous relationship.
2006-12-13 00:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by firefly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know the answer. you need to leave the control-freak, and see if you can patch things up with your ex. there is no guarantee that things will work out with your ex, but you need to give it a try.
2006-12-13 00:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by sally p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say break up with the jerk he is no good for your...and check out things with your ex and see what happens..
2006-12-13 00:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by burnedallmybridges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firefly says it best!! Excellent answer!
2006-12-13 00:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋