Ok the breakdown is that we went through a time where we both broke down completely and separated as boyfriend and girlfriend
(college had a part to do with it) and we are over 900 miles away. Recently we have tried to mend things and its working great and we are better than we were before even though we aren't anything official. During this time she was confused and was swept by this guy at her school. We were separated and they did some things a few times ( I haven't specifically asked, but i have a really good idea) it was a full out hand job... She is supposed to tell me about this over x-mas break, but how should i react to this?? We only have two weeks or so together and i don't want to be sad or anything. She's apologized and everything and is sorry, but i am extremely hurt by this. I don't know...What should I do????!?!
2006-12-12 16:18:50 · 7 answers · asked by C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and.....i would forget it and everything...and we do love each other...and i want to forgive....but the thing that gets me is she said she still had feeling for me while she had a bf(for a few weeks)..long story she was confused etc.
2006-12-12 16:26:58 · update #1
What it comes down to is this: you are in love with her,at this time.
You are really pissed she had relations with another guy.So what?
Get over it. If you were meant to be together,you'll be together.
Damn it son,it happens all the time
2006-12-12 16:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should allow things to work out naturally... and don't bring it up! I'm almost certain you haven't been a saint, have you? If so, well, good 4 u, but she had no commitment to you when it happened, so you can't be upset w/her for it, whatever "it" was, and knowing what "it" was in detail wont help will it? You both should just let it go and start over! Tell her she dont need to explain, and you just want to start here & now.
2006-12-13 00:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that far apart and she's already done something with another guy, it's likely that trend will continue. Don't expect this to go any farther than what it is right now. You're too far apart for this to work if you're not both 100% totally committed.
Good luck to you both in whatever decision you two make.
2006-12-13 00:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by steeldawg87 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,if you feel this strongly about the situation AND her,then just tell her. You should talk it out and see if she is really as sorry as she says. If she is,then this other guy will be history because she'll know you care so he won't matter.I Am in kind of a situation like this one myself and we have agreed to talk about things that come up ASAP as not to let them eat away at us. If she cares like you think she does,this will work.
2006-12-13 00:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ebony M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was honest enough to tell you. If you are both on love thats all that matters now. I would drop it and tell her that was in the past. You were seperated anyway. Enjoy your holiday without these problems. Sometimes it's better not to know
2006-12-13 00:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it.
or
Dont get over it and break up.
Everything is details. No real reason to know, except WHY.
not how what where. Dont go there. No reason to.
Get over it.
or
Dont, and break up.
2006-12-13 00:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by batwanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just move on. Loving and obsessing are completely not the same.
2006-12-13 00:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Suparto Jaya kusuma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋