I just broke up with my boyfriend and told him I didn't want to deal with a boyfriend because no offence to him but he was quite the drama king.Today my best friend who happens to be a boy told me he likes me and can't get over me.He is like an older brother to me.He's only one year older and I really can be open to him...about everything!But I am still deciding if I have those kind of feeling for him...Help!What should I do?
2006-12-12 16:16:59 · 8 answers · asked by sunshinee<3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't jump into anything-one way or another. Let him know that you have to be able to think about it first. Tell him that you've only ever thought of him as a brother, but you're willing to think about other possibilities. But you just need time to do it in.
And then do just that. It took a lot of courage for him to speak up to you about this. It is going to change your relationship with him forever. It may even kill it, because (whatever you may decide) you just may hurt him.
Is it better to lose his friendship without exploring intimacy with him? Or is it better to give intimacy with him a chance, and maybe mutually decide it's not for you, or maybe even find out that it's the best thing you've had to date?
Your decisions.
2006-12-12 16:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
date him a few times get to know him for him not a big brother type i have found that guys that really like a girl usually treat them very well and will be true to you after all you already know him to a certain extent so give the guy a shot but be honest with him up front dont be afraid to tell him how you feel what your expecting if anything but by all means dont lead him on and dont get him more intrested in you then turn around and dumo him that wouldnt be right you need to talk to him tell him how you feel just be honest if you are you will feel better in the long run good luck date him a few times really get to him
2006-12-13 00:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by jefft_4209 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your the girl... no one is the boss of you...
remember that. If you feel comfortable with him and you're willing to try him out and see what happens, then go for it....but maybe just to be safe, you can always say that whatever happens next you want to still maintain best friends....
If you know you'll never like him like a boyfriend, and you're only willing becuz you pity him then be firm and say no. Tell him exactly why you feel you can only be a like a friendly sister to him and would want to be happy by him treating you like one too.
If he loves you, he'll understand... and you have to understand if by first he's a bit dissapointed. But it wont help if you dont like it...
I say give a chance, you never know you could love him back. its better to love someone who already loves you...but its you who has to choose, not me...
2006-12-13 00:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by rhea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you want. All you have to do is think about yourself in the situation. If you feel that you do not have feeling for him other than being his friend then you should tell him that and if he is a good friend he should respect that and still be okay but if you have had feelings for him and feel you can persue it then you should because since you know so much about each other and can be very open then your relationship should be great.
2006-12-13 00:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by cjcheerleader18 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you just got out of a relationship, don't jump into other. Sometimes best friends make great lovers. He is like an older brother those romantic feels maybe awkward. Give it sometime.
2006-12-13 00:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lexy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just broke up with your boyfriend and you feel like you need some time to be single and sort through your feelings. Stay friends with your best friend through this process, but don't start dating him until you've had some time to think clearly about how you feel about him and deal with any leftover issues you may have from your ex.
2006-12-13 00:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by cg17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just flattered by the older boy,but if you liked him,it would,nt be a choice,you'd just know.Let him be.
2006-12-13 00:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him you'd think about it , and if you aren't feeling him just say: I just got out of a relationship, it always work for me.
2006-12-13 00:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by twiggy_vienna_love 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋