Man Problem? Should I stay or leave??

Question

I am so confused!! I have been back and forth with my ex-boyfriend for almost six years. Yesterday he told me he wanted me to go to his house to talk.When I got there he was so sweet and loving and he had his guard down, which is so unlike him. He even asked me to go shopping with him. Anyway, later that day I needed him to do me a favor and he told me he was busy. So I got mad. I cursed him out blah blah very childish I know. So that night I sent him a text asking him what he was doing, he replied he was on a date. All today I was fussing with him so finally he sent me a text message talking about he has a g/f now and to leave him alone. I was HEATED! And of course hurt. So I replied to his text saying I hate him blah blah blah. He called me after that and I didn't give him a chance All I said was "Please do not call me anymore." and hang up. He calls me right back mad that I told him to leave me alone? What's going on? Then he calls me back saying that he didn't go on a date

and that he only said that b/c he knew I was going to get mad. He said he was happy I came see him and loved that things were changing for the better. That is until I pulled, as he calls it, "One of my famous Jessica moves" and got mad when I didn't get my way. Said I started the fight. Then he tells me to do what I have to do and hangs up in my face.

Now is it me or him? It seems like everytime we get closer we get into a fight? Does he even love me or am I just wasting my time? I mean yesterday was great. He asked me what I wanted for Christmas, which is a first cause we have NEVER EXCHANGED GIFTS. He was sweet and compassionate, which is also a first? I"m so lost. I haven't talked to him since or last conversation and I'm not sure what to do...

Answer 1

u put in work for 6 long years and it seems like you guys have been on a rocky road at certain times. u have to ask yourself is it worth staying? He's either playing games with u or he 's starting to change. U never know with a guy. Your situation is weird a little because what he's doing is kind of out of the ordinary. I say follow your own instincts because you know him better then anybody. Also u have to calm down a little, it seems like you want him attention a lot and u have to realize sometimes maybe he is busy. U guys probably both are playing a part in the negative and positive part of the relationship. Sit down and tell him how u feel, place your bet on the table and put all your cards down and see if you win or lose. Double or nothing. keep ya head we all been through it.

Answer 2

GIRL, you know in your heart that this is not what you are meant to be with,
You need some peace and it is not with this fool.. He's playing games. He knows what to do to make you mad and does it. If he loved you he wouldn't do that,
I spent 7 long miserable years in a relationship just the same. I didn't want to leave because I loved him and didn't think I could get better and didn't want to take the time.. I eventually got sick of it and left.. Now I am engaged to a great guy (not the jerk) and soooo very happy.. I know how I was supposed to get treated then.. too bad I waited soo long..Get out now.. Don't waste ne more of your time.. Next time set your standards higher and don't give in to fools like him.
Oh yeah.. The jerk.. is still a loser and begs for me to come back... I say "u had your chance and didn't do anything with it"
That's a good feeling.. TRY IT.. U WILL BE FINE..

Answer 3

Hmmmm, WAY too many games in a 6 year relationship....IF you want to call it that...

I don't know your age, but I'll guess you're young....but now you're 6 years older and the both of you have not changed or matured. You probably never will with this OLD relationship hanging over your head.....

You are BOTH BUTTON PUSHERS and enjoy each other's reactions to this GAME....
And that's all it is. A game.

Time to find a good solid relationship with a good solid MAN.....

Answer 4

U know what to do leave him alone. There is nothing wrong with remaining friends but he seems like he really just wants u to be there for him and u get nothing in return but his lies. And why did he have to lie about going on a date just to make u mad that is so childish. Yeah honey move on and don't look back.

Answer 5

He keeps calling you even after you have it out with him?.. shows that he does like you..
BUT 6 years??!! That's a little much to be fighting.
I'd say go to a counselor or have it over with.
Sounds like you both love eachother but can't get it straight.

Answer 6

hes doing one of two things testing how much you care about him or he is confused right now. Im curious if he may like someone else right now. Hold on there and good luck hope all works out alright

Answer 7

honey, I'm a big believer in second chances, but it truly sounds like this guy doesn't know what he wants...and really, if he doesn't see right away or even after this long that you aren't wonderful, then frankly, he's not worth your time.

I say that you tell this guy exactly what's going on, and tell him to get a life...he can't do this to you, and you can't let him do this to you...

Good Luck!!

Answer 8

You are willing to tell us that you have spent the last 6 years of your life playing games with him?
Continue on.

Answer 9

well, you've been torturing each other for six years and you can keep torturing each other for 6 more if you want, but i say go. the stuff with telling you he has a girlfriend? crazy, primadonna stunt. you need to leave this *** and find someone sane.

Answer 10

I can tell you from a similar experience that the man loves you ma. what you should do in the next argument is ignore him ,and if that does not work then let him get his last word and whateva, so he can't pin **** on you, feel me?