i was a foster kid and moved from home to home. I never really got settled in one place so i never really bonded with a family. Now i am 19 and on my own. I have lots of friends but they will be with their family's on the holidays and i really don't enjoy celebrating the holidays cuz of the past so i turned down a number of invitations to others homes. I have no family whatsoever... so does anyone have any suggestions as to what i should do to the pass the time? I could spend it being depressed but i'de rather not. been there done that, don't want to do it again. please help.
2006-12-12 15:59:25 · 11 answers · asked by AngelU 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There are a number of things you could do. Visit men and women just coming back from Iraq that are in the hospital or recovering elsewhere. Ask at the local Armory or Military Base if you can help with their planned Holiday Party for the Kids whose parents are serving overseas. You would have fun with the kids and maybe make some new friends that are young mom's.
Volunteer for Meals on Wheels that bring Meals to shut-ins and senior citizens - it is a very lonely time of year for them and you could wind up with a great friend and adopted type grandparent.
You could make a day just for yourself - sleep in or go to church service if you are so inclined - enjoy the service and the beautiful music. Go for a walk in a favorite park or to a movie. Return home and prepare a special dinner - it doesn't have to be turkey or ham. Something that is your favorite that might be kinda fussy or something that takes a little extra effort but that you really enjoy. Take a long hot bubble bath.
You could also check and see if the local animal shelter needs volunteers for those days. Animals are wonderful companions and they listen so well! LOL! But they can bring so much joy especially when you need it most.
Be open and friendly and accept one of those invitations to a friend's home. Remember they wouldn't have asked you into their home and celebration if they didn't care for you. You don't have to stay all day or all night - just an hour or two. Maybe have a small tree ready to decorate just for yourself after you've been to a friend's home. Remember traditions have to start somewhere - start your own. Make your own day! Share it and celebrate it with yourself and others.
One last thought - you could if you like to bake - make a bunch of cookies and goodies and put together seperate plates and bring them to the local fire department, police station and emergency room - these are all people who are working or on duty when the rest of us are doing the holiday thing. But they are there giving of their time for others - share the day with them - help make being away from their family a little brighter. (Trust me - they love it - I've done it for years and my brother is a fireman and loves when people bring goodies in!)
But make the day your own - wipe away the past and start anew - make your own traditions.
Christmas Blessings to you.
2006-12-12 17:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sherri R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel, why not spend some time with those that are less fortunate. I mean your still young and you have no idea how much people would really appreciate your help in different organizations. An example would be a Center for the Visually Impaired. Don't let them fool you. They can do more than you realize but still need a helping hand. They have all kinds of activities you can help with. Ceramics, Word Processing, Yoga, you name it and they can do it. Or, you could volunteer at a Veteran's Hospital. Alot of guys and gals are coming back home and need some cheering up around the holiday season's. You can help alot there. You name an organization and I guarantee they can use your help. If you want to give back to kids, then go to a Children's Hospital and volunteer reading stories or helping some of the kids in the Cancer or Burn Units. And you know what spend some time with a friend of yours family and though you may not enjoy celebrating the holidays, they will make you feel at home.
2006-12-12 16:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the one atheist in a Christian household. When we occasion for Christmas and stuff, I simply quietly step out of the room while they are pronouncing grace or praying or anything and are available again while they are performed. Because, yeah, I uncover it foolish too and are not able to be a side of whatever I believe is foolish. But that does not imply one should be disrespectful approximately the complete factor. Explain for your household that you simply admire their proper to hope and feel in god so that they will have to admire your proper to be an atheist. None of my household individuals pontificate to me or strain me into collaborating in prayers or matters like that. And I would not say that the vacations are needless. It's a time to occasion with household, and at the same time it most often turns out like a soreness it is continuously a laugh. =) Good success!
2016-09-03 15:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by gombos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel, I would suggest that you spend the holidays befriending kids who are in the same situation you are in now. There many kids who will be spending the holidays alone in group homes, so find one in your area and be a blessing to those kids. If you can afford it, it wouldn't be a bad thing if you carry some presents with you. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season....something's telling me that you will.
2006-12-12 16:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's threeo options: Visit children at a group home, help serve the Christmas Day meal at a local soup kitchen, visit the elderly in a nursing home.
2006-12-12 20:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 19 you could talk to my granddaughter she is 17 grew up poor with not much she is a good girl she doesn't have anyone in her life right now she dosent like being at her moms and my so came out of prison he is limited what he can do probation he was forced to stay at the Durham Rescue Missions the family have had some problems and Heaven always just dosent want to celerbrate anything so where are you? get back with me ok"Deb just maybe something can work out depending where you are Ok lets chat Ok Thanks I am going to be by my self not with my family its longs story chat or call me" 904 352-7230
2013-11-22 09:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by Deb S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about sharing your time with the elderly like in nursing homes. Just being there with them and talking to them or just reading book, maybe even sing. Help with art activities during their crafting time. Just think about it elderly are lonely to and depressed. You never know you just might make someone's day or even christmas.
2006-12-12 16:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by ohla03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont u spend some time at a nursing home? or u could come over to my place:)
2006-12-12 16:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit a nursing home, they have "adopt a grandparent" programs where you can spend time visiting people that have no one either. Good luck, God Bless
2006-12-12 16:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by Meece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a foster home and buy some gifts for very lil ones , will make u an d god happy.
2006-12-12 16:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by sanJose_Guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋