I dont know what to do!!! I have revenge in my grasp, but im feeling guilty about it, i dont know if I should do it or not!!! This person has hurt me soooo much and this person has even admitted that they made my life a living hell!!! But i dont know if I can hurt this person enough to make there life a living hell by even possibly having them arrested!!! I dont know what to do!!! I might go through with it but im not sure!! please help!! advice or life experience??? please!!!
2006-12-12 15:49:10 · 15 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard to make this decision. To call the cops out of revenge, you will feel guilty. To not do anything and someone getting hurt by this person, you will feel more than guilty because you will be party to his crimes. Call the cops because this person is doing wrong and not because you will take satisfaction with his misery.
2006-12-12 16:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go through with this revenge because you are already feeling guilty about it. Sometimes the idea of getting a revenge can seem so satisfying, but in the end you will regret it. Two wrongs don't make a right, so I suggest you not get a revenge...be the bigger person and forgive this person, and move on with your life. Good luck
2006-12-13 00:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Susu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.. agree with other post.. would like more info. BUT.. if they've admitted that they made your life hell then that's the first step in working out wrongdoings. Will you feel better in doing this or worse?
Here's my criteria for doing or not doing:
1. Are they likely to do more harm to others by not being arrested (if so then do it.)
2. Was this something that will hurt you legally, financially, seriously.. for the long term? (if so then do it)
3. Is this person basically good and has admitted to wrongdoings and it wasn't something that was seriously aggregious? (then don't do it.)
Can't particularly answer this as we have not much info but hope this helps..
Good luck. (p.s. if it's something very small and can ruin a person's life by your actions then think and think again.)
and P.S.S. .. don't waste your life on revenge.. try and live it to the fullest.
2006-12-12 23:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GET REVENGE. (unless someone else or the person you're referring to is in danger). I"m sure you've heard this preached your entire life, but by hurting them you are lowering yourself to their level. Why would you want to be like them? I can tell you from experience that this is not the way to go. I've been on both sides of the fence, and it feels awful to purposely hurt someone like that, and it's even worse when you know someone is purposel hurting you. If it were something less serious and permanent than jail, I might say that in CERTAIN SITUATIONS it could POSSIBLY be ok. I strongly urge you to think very hard before you do anything drastic, it's almost guaranteed that you will wish you hadn't. Try to be the good guy in this situation, and let the other person be the bad guy.
2006-12-12 23:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by freakindasheets 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you truly going to be better for doing it to them? Is it truly going to improve your life or just temporarily change your outlook because now they came up on the short end of the stick?
Is it guilt you feel or just fear that if you do this thing you will simply increase the stakes of what is happening?
How long have you had to wait until this opportunity to seek revenge presented itself? And, if it truly damages the other person in proportion to how you were previously damaged, how long will they be willing to wait until the next opportunity to damage you?
Obviously, if this person made your life a living hell, you probably don't have any more relationship with them. It would be best to keep it that way and move past this.
Just my thoughts, good luck.
2006-12-12 23:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by bkc99xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I suggest you should get that person wh had made your life a living hell. Get the revenge you deserve......you should try to make he/she go through the same as he/she made you go through with your life.
2006-12-12 23:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go through with it. In the end I know you'll end up regretting your decision.
The best way to go about things is forgiving the person. You always end up feeling better, as well as the other person. You also come off as the more mature person and that's always a good feeling as well.
2006-12-12 23:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by bholl5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOO! Stop right there! You can't take revenge on anyone. Revenge is God's and His alone. Just leave well enough alone, please.
I agree with the last two posts.
U would not want that on ur conscience.
I'm sorry if they have made u feel bad, but please do not sink to their level. U do that and it makes u as bad as them. Think about it.
2006-12-13 00:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way your hurting right now and your angry. in time this will pass and you will be glad you took the higher ground even if he didn't..
You do something now. all you get is instant gratification . but inside you won't feeel very proud of yourself. why stoop to his level your better than that. Look at this as a learning experience and you will know better next time.
take the higher road. I know others will say do it. but that solves nothing inside and in the end you end up a snake just like he was.
2006-12-13 00:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow dude revenge isn't sweet enough to have someones life ruined by getting them arrested just to get revenge.. said person has already said yes i made ur life hell and if they have stopped why torture them let jerks be jerks and move on don't ruin someones life just for giggles...
2006-12-12 23:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by ypsilady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋