2006-12-12 15:45:31 · 10 answers · asked by Jennifer S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well just reassure him. I moved a lot and changed schools like 7 times. I know how he feels. I felt alone and nobody liked me. But I just was patient and took most of the razing
And when I figured out who was in my "Cool zone" I just tried talking to them, or found some common ground, like i saw they liked to do something I liked. I was a and still am a shy man but I manage to make friends. But tell him to be smart about it. There are people who could "prey " on him...you know what I mean..The bad ones. But most of all tell him to just be his self...works every time.
Good luck. even let him read this..
2006-12-12 15:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Psycmixer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My youngest son moved down to spend a year with me so I could help my ex-wife with some pretty serious problems my son was having last year and he went through the No one likes here at this school thing. I told him is not that no one likes you, it's no one knows you plus, the school was larger than the whole town we're from so that was an adjustment as well. I would give my son way's to approach others (he's very shy at first) and keep up the positive encouragement. he started making friends about 3 weeks later. Tell your son to smile, say hi to everyone he meets or see's and people will come to him to find out what he's about. hang in there. :)
2006-12-13 00:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him that they don't actually hate him, they are just wary of new kids who are still strangers to him. In fact, they may be worried if he is not impressed by them, that he is smarter than them, as so they are hesitant to be friendly. Assure him that this will change with time. Perhaps you can relate your own experiences when you first joined school -- how everyone was unfriendly and even mean at first and how that all changed. (You can perhaps even make it up a bit if it helps him feel a bit better). You can also tell him not to react to they coldness obviously, but play it 'cool', prove to them that he's the 'cool dude' worth being friends with. In no way should he let the other kids feel he is intimidated by them.
Perhaps you can put in a word with the teacher to, privately.
2006-12-13 00:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep reminding him that he is new and that he has to get to know everyone better. i would make sure that he knows that you understand how down he is feeling about it. don't just shrug it off as nothing...
ask him if he remembers any new kids coming to his old school. did everyone become friends with them right away? making friends takes time.
remind him that he has christmas break in 2 weeks so he'll get a break from the stress of fitting in.
also ask him what things the kids are interested in. what they like to do, etc. so that he can see if he has any of the same interest. i wouldn't let him know, but you might want to have a quick conference with the teacher and just touch base on how he is doing in the new classroom. is he being too quiet? is he trying to make friends? maybe she can pair him with a buddy or offer some type of help.
stay positive! it will get better! SD
2006-12-13 00:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to change himself to make the others like him. Tell him to be himself and the children will learn who he is and will accept him for that. Every school is different. Every child is different. Maybe these new children take a lot longer to warm up to someone new. Maybe you can meet one of the parents when it is pick up time and chat with them. After a bit both children will learn there is nothing wrong with either through their parents example. Arrange for the other parent and child to come over for coffee and play time. If you are not willing to do these things try to get your child to bring something to school that he can share with the others. Like toys and games. Let him practise with you what he is going to say if he is the nervous or shy type.
2006-12-13 03:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him out.... it may be that he is shy and kids are not famous for just welcoming a new person into their already formed groups and "clicks" if you will. If you can, try to figure out some kind of a party to throw so he can invite some of his classmates. Even if only one or two people show up, they may be able to help lead him into other groups!
2006-12-13 17:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by mom4ivp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to ***** school and get him into somthing useful, like the arts or acting. Just make sure he know the basics, like math and how to spell and read.
Like will smith once said, school is useless...everything you learn after the basics is just BS.
2006-12-13 00:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU AND HE NEED A MEETING WITH THE TEACHERS PRINCIPALS AND THE BOARD OF EDUCATION TO HAVE ACTION TAKING IF NONE IS DONE TELL THEM YOU ARE GETTING A LAWYER TO HAVE A HARASSMENT SUIT BROUGHT AGAINST THE SCHOOL AND ALL THE ABOVE.
2006-12-13 01:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your son to stay confident and not to be shy.
2006-12-12 23:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by mluchini7@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to suck it up and quit being a baby.
2006-12-13 00:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋