She wants to be the first one to know, no matter what. She gave my husband a lecture.??? Our marriage is good so whats the deal with her???
2006-12-12 14:58:44 · 30 answers · asked by ms 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Make her a deal. You get to dictate when she dies.
Just kidding of course.
2006-12-12 15:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sorry bout ya! Mothers in law can be an interesting bunch...mine doesn't speak to us, and neither one of us is completely sure why.
She absolutely does NOT have the right to dictate your lives....it's YOUR lives!!! I think that some mothersof boys/men, have trouble not being the only woman in their son's lives, and don't know how to let go. Good luck!
2006-12-12 15:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lacta-intactivist Mama! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that when you married a person you actually married the entire family?
If your mother-in-law is doing that then you should play the intelligent part and not let her bother you, is your choice after all. My only advice will be don´t put your husband in the middle of this war, he is not a referee. Be an adult and don´t allow her to hurt you or bother you.
2006-12-12 15:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Finy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She and I would have serious problems.
I have had a few friends over the years that had overly involved mother in laws & eventually, they took a tole on the marriage. I hope you & your husband are on the same page where she is concerned! Mothers like her are just problems!
2006-12-12 15:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anne A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mom wants to be a grandmother. and it sounds like she is having some control issues. It is your decision, and she is allowed to have her opinion, but in the end she really has no say in the matter. It is your body, your marriage, and your baby. You decide when it is the right time, not her.
This could end in an argument, however if you want her to stop her nagging and understand, then you are going to have to explain to her that you will have a baby when you and your husband are good and ready
2006-12-12 15:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by Scotty D 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I couldn't tell you. Only she could... Maybe she just doesn't want to be left out or the last to know... Do you know the details of the lecture? As husband and wife, you two should be making these decisions together (not with your mother-in-law). She should understand not to step in unless you both ask her to. Sorry I can be of more help. Happy Holidays!
2006-12-12 15:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥princessai♥ 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you have to ask, she already has far too much control over you.
Usually such meddlesome people do not respond to simple requests to mind their own business. You have to punish them in some way, such as:
"Mind your own business or we'll sever all contacts with you until you apologize and continue to mind your own business."
"sever all contacts" goes over big with manipulating controllers, since they have no chance at all to control you if you're never around. Of course, this will take several passes before she gets the message.
On the bright side, you'll get a lot of time off from her until she learns her lesson!
Good luck!
PS: if your husband does not go along with this approach and continues to be controlled by her, there's no hope. In that case he's a mama's boy, and always will be. Divorce his mother-in-law via dumping him, and your problems will be over - provided that before you marry again, you scout out the situation with your future mother-in-law carefully!
2006-12-12 15:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by almintaka 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
NO, not unless she is getting you pregnant or getting pregnant!
You could have both sets of parents over for coffee, dinner, dessert or something and then tell them. You could make a cake and decorate with booties and pink and blue and see what their reaction is!
2006-12-12 15:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by cool chic 2no 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh tell me about it, my mother in law was the same way. Your hubby needs to realize you now come before mommy dearest and you now have created your own family. He needs to stand up to her if he doesn't just wait until you do have baby she will be controling & your worst nightmare. Good Luck & tell your mom first!
2006-12-12 15:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have got tobe kidding! Your mother in-law has absolutely no right dictating any aspect of your life! Your husband has to step up and be a man and tell her to butt out.
2006-12-12 15:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by missjewl 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋