Before you respond let me explain.
I have secular friends and aquaintances and if I ask them what a guy's looks and advancements mean and that I don't feel comfortable, they say that he wants some.
If I ask my Christian friends that they say nah he's just being friendly! I listen to them and guess what he wanted it.
Another example!
There is this married 70 year old college instructor of mine giving me these looks. I again ask my aquaintances and friends if it's anything to worry about they say if you want it get it over with in his office, if not then steer clear, it's obvious where it's going. Guess what?? THEY WERE RIGHT! TWICE IN A ROW!
I ask my CHRISTIAN FRiends they say "nah he's married that doesn't mean a thing ladeda"
mmm? What ya gotta say? Pretty naive then?
From now on I ask my secular friends about guys and their intentions because they're always right and they're street smart unlike Christians. They know I want to save it until marriage.
2006-12-12 14:53:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am very modest and kind and polite and don't lead guys on. ESPECIALLY not married men!
2006-12-12 14:54:07 · update #1
I find christians very optimistic - to a fault - to the point of ignoring reality.
2006-12-12 14:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a Christian.
You come from the influence of God.
God doesn't think sexually.
Therefore a Christian is often basically oblivious to these matters because their mind isn't thinking that way. You are so positive in the world that you can't really begin to think like the negative and you don't.
Unfortunately, the most of the world doesn't think that way.
When it comes to guys, they will all be your friend... but in hopes of some day gettin w/ you. Some dudes don't even try the friend tactic and just hit on you.
But if a dude shows interest in you its because he likes you. And if you show interest back, your giving him a sign. Doesn't mean he couldn't the the nicest guy in the world.... Doesn't mean you should feel awkward when a dude does this....
So basically keep this as a mental note: In the Church, guys do want to be your friend. In the real world, guys do what guys have done for thousands of years...
2006-12-12 15:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by the nothing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think many Christians try to give people the benefit of the doubt and don't make negative judgements about then until they've seen proof.
I hang out on a chat list where many of the contributors are secular. Most of them are very intelligent but also very pessimistic and super cynical and negative towards people who do believe in god. I believe everyone is entitled to their own beliefs but if we go around assuming the worst about everyone how are we ever to make friends and trust one another. Every person we meet is a potential serial killer but if we think about things like that all the time how dark our lives would be. Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all!
2006-12-12 15:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mmmhmmm, just your "Christian friends" are naive. Hon, we Christians just didn't suddenly appear and are akin to the actors fictional characters on "Third Rock from the Sun" I could tell you up front how the mind of a tom cat works, because GUESS WHAT???? I was not always a Christian.
NC
2006-12-12 15:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So...how did you find out they wanted it? Just how did you go about proving your friends/acquaintances right, or proving your Christian friends wrong?
Your question is a thin disguise for your point. Just bash them all and stop beating around the bush, ok?
2006-12-12 15:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by professor x 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps this will help you..."no one looks behind the door unless he himself has hidden there"
That is the insight your secular friends have ...it is a part of thier thought process based on thier experience.
Christians don't respond in the same way having different experiences and outlook.
2006-12-12 16:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by Robert b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all Christians are naive. I'm not paranoid, but I'm cautious, and nowadays a wedding ring don't mean diddly. I wouldn't meet dude alone, or I'll go with my handy can of mace...I never leave home without it.
2006-12-12 17:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Tyese 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're generalizing about Christians. The ones you talked to were not being realistic, but that doesn't mean ALL Christians are like that. Common sense has alot to do with it as well.
2006-12-12 15:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Terial 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your Christian aquaintances are trying to avoid the trap of engaging in gossip and slander. we are taught to not judge by the appearance of things but rather to judge in righteousness.
In other words we are told to believe the best of people.
Others cannot be responsible for discerning someone else's heart intent.
Also I commend you for wanting to save yourself for marriage and not being willing to be involved in a married man's life.
2006-12-12 15:09:04 · answer #9 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you know all the Christians in the world? I'm impressed.
All that means is that you have a few optimistic Christian friends.
2006-12-12 15:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by *~SoL~ * Pashaa del Ñuñcaa. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋