Why do people treat sex like it is such a casual thing and that you should be expected to have sex before marraige? It seems like sex is as casual as going to Macdonalds and ordering a burger, coke and fries?
Why arent more people waiting until thier married, what is the big rush to have sex? Why is sex seems to be the most focal thing in a realtionship before marriage?
Why are people obssessed with sex?
2006-12-12 14:49:40 · 14 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Amen to that girl. I totally agree. I am a 19 year old female and I plan on waiting until marriage before I have sex. I am saving myself to respect myself, my future husband and most importantly God. I know that everyone is different and has different beliefs, and to each his own, but you are very right. I know some people that think sleeping around with whomever whenever is really no big deal. This increases the risk of pregnancy, STD's and also emotional problems later down the road, as well as a not so good reputation. Good for you for waiting and God bless you!! Your future husband will cherish your gift!
I actually wear a purity ring on my left hand ring finger to symbolize that I am saving myself until I get married. It says TRUE LOVE WAITS. I love Rebecca St. James song "Wait for Me", the lyrics are wonderful!!
WAIT FOR ME
by: Rebecca St. James
Darling did you know that I
I dream about you
Waiting for the look in your eyes
When we meet for the first time
Darling did you know that I
I pray about you
Praying that you will hold on
Keep your loving eyes only for me
I am waiting for
Praying for you darling
Wait for me too
Wait for me as I wait for you
I am waiting for
Praying for you darling
Wait for me too
Wait for me as I wait for you
Darling wait
Darling did you know I dream about life together
Knowing it will be forever
I'll be yours and you'll be mine
And darling when I say
Til death do us part
I'll mean it with all of my heart
Now and always faithful to you
I am waiting for
Praying for you darling
Wait for me too
Wait for me as I wait for you
I am waiting for
Praying for you darling
Wait for me too
Wait for me as I wait for you
Darling wait
Now I know you may have made mistakes
But there's forgiveness and a second chance
So wait for me darling
Wait for me
Wait for me
Written By Rebecca St. James / Copyright © 2000 Up In The Mix Music/Bibbitsong Music (BMI)
Behind the Song:
'The idea for this song came from letters that I have written to my future husband, that I will one day give to him. I sing it not just to him but on behalf of young women today, encouraging the future husbands of our generation to stay sexually pure, to wait for us.' ; 1 Timothy 4:12 NIV - Rebecca St. James
2006-12-12 14:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's casual. I think it's important to save it for someone you love. Not to try to sound mean, but trying to make you think. Have you actually interviewed everyone on the planet to know that all people are obsessed with sex? I used to feel the way you did a few years ago. It's very easy to assume everyone a certain way when you've had some bad experiences or read and heard about stuff. It's harder to look into the truth and discover there are people out there who aren't like that. Yes, there are quite a lot of people who are sex obsessed and tons of it everywhere in the media, but there is also the opposite too. Try not to concentrate on it so much. Go out and hang out with family and Friends, join a new activity,join a charity that means a lot to you. Get out there and meet people and you'll see there are people who don't put sex first.
2006-12-12 15:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by freedove06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because our society has allowed sex to become casual and it isn't treated with the same concerns as it was pre-60's.
I think after the Vietnam era, there was a shift in beliefs and the sexual revolution began and hasn't stopped yet.
I thought the Aids epidemic would have brought about a change in the revolution, but except for a slight hiccup for a while, it never changed the attitudes toward sex. I think more protection was brought to light and people are more careful today than in years past.
But, casual sex has become more commonplace and without any more regard as the example you used."going to Macdonalds".
You would think they are just are more prone to use condoms or some form of contraceptives now, but the amount of unplanned pregnancies in our country doesn't suggest much in the way of prevention.
2006-12-12 15:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Gnome 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that sex isn't more casual, and it isn't a case of flippancy. As a society, we are just more sexually aware and open - there is (generally) no mystery about human sexuality and it's consequences in this modern age. That is not to say there aren't those who are uninformed or badly educated, and there are definitely a number of "taboos" and stereotypes that persist.
Sex - like any other part of human behaviour - also suffers from negative opinions because people can't differentiate between "what appears to be happening" and "what is actually happening". You would be surprised at the numbers of (teenage) couples who are "sexually active" but haven't had sexual intercourse - yet somehow they still earn reputations because people who have no business commenting can't respect their privacy.
The reason for the "rush to have sex" is because people aren't getting married in their low to mid teens like they were 2000 years ago. Despite the more conservative opinions, sex is an important part of the human condition - both in terms of "biological imperative" (ie, mating), and in terms of social relationships. While I'm not advocating a new sexual revolution, I do believe we have to give people credit for being able to make decisions about their behaviour and the information to make informed choices. In an age where people are waiting until later in life to get married, the idea of "no premarital sex" is starting to move toward the "unrealistic" end of the scale.
As obsessed as people seem to be about sex, there are just as many who appear to be obsessed with NOT having sex. We'll just have to disagree on the details of our choices lifestyles.
(I'm also thinking I'm going to the wrong McDonalds...)
2006-12-12 16:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by keltarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who believes in a book written over a thousand years ago can guide their life is a moron.
God won't 'guide' your life. You have to decide what to do. No one else can control your life but you.
That said, I believe that sex is simply more open then it once was. Rich men back in the day took Mistresses, and yes, that did include prominent religious figures. (Example: A bishop would have a Mistress) Prostitution isn't the oldest profession for no good reason. Premarital sex has been going on a lot longer then you think, people were just a heck of a lot more discreet about it then they are now.
2006-12-12 15:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by amgarrison2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is like McDonald's….. all have that one with the special sauce
I understand your are the “encourager for God” …. so I'm going to assume you have not had sex and you're saving yourself for marriage. First of all there is nothing wrong with that…. that's a good thing…. good for you.
As someone that has studied the Bible and the Karma Sutra….to write a book about sexuality, I can assure you people enjoy sex. Sex is a pleasurable experience between two people. Marriage is usually a commitment to each other, till death do you part, to raise a family and to prosper.
If you believe in God.... and he created all things….. so he also created the orgasm. A point of pleasure for both sexes when coming together. If you strictly believe in the Bible then you know that God punished Eve for taking of the tree of knowledge… for she shall now bear pain during childbirth…. he could've just as easily made sex extremely painful or prevented her from ever having an orgasm…. but you know… he didn't
You asked why aren't more people waiting until they get married? Did you realize that a large percentage of the Puritans (those founding fathers… or mothers) were pregnant before marriage? I don't think anybody's been waiting at any time in history. Maybe some ebbs and flows but that's about it
This is not new….. before anyone could just cover up a pregnancy…. get married quickly and a baby 8 months later….. (who will notice). Now with technology and the fact that all of us are a lot less naïve… you can’t hide what's been going on all long.
Let's go back in history a few hundred years back to England. Women got married when they were 13. The average lifespan was only about 35….. so the sooner the better. Sex was a lot sooner with them and it is today. I have to admit we are catching up … or is that catching backwards?
Let's jump forward to the 60s….. now let's face it….. Woodstock there were a lot of drugs and a lot of sex….. and you know I haven't seen a party like that sense…. does that mean we become less wild? Less sexual? What happened to the sex revolution? Free love?
You asked why is sex the most focal thing in a relationship before marriage? If two people have been dating for some time and are seriously considering marriage then a sexual relationship before marriage is not a bad idea. Two people can be very different sexual. One can like it all the time and another could care less. Can you imagine these two people married? It is very possible that they can be completely compatible nonsexual but incompatible sexually. Now people can work through this but does that mean they're happy… happily married? There are certainly people that were thinking of getting married and then became sexual and said to themselves…. What am I thinking?
Now having said all this I do think some people treat sex way to casually. I don't mean from a religious standpoint. They're deftly some young people treated almost at the same level as a handshake. I mean the same people probably wouldn't share their McDonald's shake with someone else… they put their lips on my straw…. but they would have sex with them….. bit hypocritical isn't it?
Mark
Author GirlsTellAll
2006-12-12 14:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by GirlsTellAll.com 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think sex has become a double-edged sword. If you give it up, you're a sl*t. If you don't, you're a prude.
People are obsessed with sex because it is so readily available. So many experiences, so little time.
We're bombarded with sexy images every single day. Victoria's Secret Fashion Show, Coke commercials, The Real World, etc.
Sex sells and it has spilled its way into regular lifestyles. People tend to forget what the media glosses over...the downside of having sex early on. (Getting dumped, disrespected, cheated on, catching diseases and the effects of those diseases, unwanted pregnancies, psychological damage of not learning how to build healthy relationships, divorce rates, etc.)
2006-12-12 15:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by LuvsMochaCoffee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that sex has become a casual thing in society. I'm waiting for marriage, because the most important thing in my relationship is the emotional connection between us, not sex.
2006-12-12 14:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by argylemoose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is too easy to get. I myself value it. I dont want to be out their with just anyone but at the same time, waiting for marriage is sacred and sometimes temptation takes over and who know s now in days when will a guy marry you. ONe pop you just cant stop
2006-12-12 14:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beats me. I'm waiting until marriage, or at least until I find someone I think is worth marrying anyway. Good night!
2006-12-12 14:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋