Pl do help help help me..frank suggestions..?
i have been in love with a person since 3yrs and we used to be very loving..but then he started to take "over care"(thts wht he says)on me and even till today never allows me to meet friends or even talk on phone to others..he says u ll be mislead..!all thse yrs,i got used to it,but once i promised him i will be the girl as u wish to be..unable to see his sadness...may be i thought i could come down a bit..
since then we didnt hav any prob,though i could feeel the decreasing love..
now,at present,he still more decreased the ways of showing love,complaining tht i hav been looki at him as a miserly fellow..but i really by God didnt mean it..
friends,pl tell me to regain the love..or how to make him turn my side and love me..??pl give me some tips..i m really getting depressed..u think its fine for me to think of regainng his love??
pl friends help me..for i m depressed.............
NO MEAN COMMENTS PL
2006-12-12 14:38:43 · 2 answers · asked by For peace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he used to be very very loving..but i dont know why he has turned lik this...may be he feels i m not understanding him properly..may bcoz we are far from each other since few months..
phone is the only communication..tell me how to make best of this..
friends,i really wanna assure him tht i love him...
tell me some ways to assure and as my 1st answerer said,i ll mend my own but do let me know how to mend his ways...
2006-12-12 15:11:05 · update #1
1. You need to be able to communicate with your friends, the one of the reasons you are depressed is being lonely and not being able to relate to others outside of the relationship. Denying this basic need is definitely not an act of love
2. You cannot force anyone to love you. Love has to be given freely, it is not forced out of someone, you can potentially trap someone in a relationship, but you cannot force him to genuinely love you.
3. A crucial part of a relationship is communication, and you both need to open up about your feelings for each other, and why this has happened. Perhaps you can mend your ways and get him to mend his ways to repair the relationship.
4. If your bf has problems opening up, definitely don't badger him. Support him and encourage him but don't lose your temper at him for not opening up, or while he is opening up. Listen to him. Give him time to finish and digest it. Take things slowly.
5. Tell him about the fact you are isolated and have no capability to relate with other people and it is damaging you. If he persists in that vain, then you have no choice but to dump him. Him dictating who you are allowed to talk to is nothing short of abuse
Good luck
2006-12-12 14:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by bumbass2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think swettie that he might be hindering you a bit from having a normal friendly relationship with other person and a relationship that only revolves around the both of you will not last long becouse your relationship to work must be a well balanced relationship remember you did have friends and pleople that cared about you before he came onto the scene . Try to balance it out in your on heart and reason within yourself if this is a relationship worth keeping and if you find within yourself that you are absolutely certain that this is what you want so sit down and speak to him , open your heart and tell him how you feel . Also remember a relationship without communication, trust and understanding does not hold any hope of standing on its own.
2006-12-12 15:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Luna23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋