My ex-boyfriend called me about 2 months after I broke up with him. He told me all the things I wanted to hear, how much he loved me, how he knew that he had to change, and how he thinks we can make it work. But nothing has changed, if anything it has gotten worse. I want to just tell him to leave me alone and never contact me again. The last time I broke things off I sent him a text message and asked him not to contact me again, well obviously that didn't work. I want to be honest and tell him that he makes me feel lonely and unwanted. But for some reason when I talk to him I buy into all his words wich he never backs up with actions. How do I get the confidence to tell him, or should I send him another message. I just can't take how he treats me anymore.
2006-12-12 14:35:03 · 9 answers · asked by asking away 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to just forget it. Here's what to do. Stop talking to him. That means, no texting, no email, no myspace, no phone calls. Don't make them, don't receive them. You can't go through the explanations with him, it just shows you are still somewhat attached. If you don't want to be with him, you need to show him that with ACTIONS by totally moving on. Good luck, it's a tough thing to do, but it's the only way to really cut the relationship off. In relationships like this, you really can't be friends for a while, if at all -- so don't try to be sensitive & caring -- it sends the wrong message.
2006-12-12 14:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a seat with the case worker and function an individual communicate. Your dream of a contented abode with daddy and your toddlers would purely be no longer achievable. it will be good so that you'll attempt to wrap your concepts round that and function a actual frank communicate with whichever state corporation bumped off your little ones out of your care. "I care very a lot for my little ones and that i'd provide something to have my little ones lower back." to that end, there'll be some sparkling and written list of needs to make that take position. You both do what it takes to fulfill those criteria or you do not. when you consider that your little ones were removed from the abode... it truly is on your ballpark now. And action is the in problem-free words promise that counts.
2016-11-26 00:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK how dumb are you. Just say NO. when he calls don't answer. Do not go where he is. Do not respond to any contact. Stop listening to his lies, you know that they are lies. he will string you along for as long as the sex is available when he wants and he will say anything to keep it that way
If you want him to leave you alone all you have to do is leave him alone. He can't contact you if you do not respond, He can't talk to you, if you do not listen. it is as simple as that. He is not going to change so if you like things like they are, and they will get worse, if you like it just stay with him and stop whining. If you don't like it grow a spine, stand up and say Stay Away From Me and mean it.
2006-12-12 14:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think ur problem is u never have hurt or got mad enough at himto mean bussiness.. ur not alowing urrslef to do it.. if u would then u would put ur foot down and tell hik off.. i've been there done that mess..
u keep letting him back in with his lies and he knows just what to say or do to get back.. but if u grab him by the balls and say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH then he will leave u alone..
be strong ~
2006-12-12 14:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him change, but he isn't going to. You should like someone just the way they are. You can't change people. You were not meant for each other. Stop wasting your time waiting for him to change. He is who he is.
2006-12-12 14:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you say...leave me alone...it is final...and sometimes people like to leave the door open...just a little bit
2006-12-12 14:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself... had the feeling still ... be open to tell the guy what you expected from him to you the same
2006-12-12 14:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by desiree gersaniba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who has been in your shoes, you will get the nerve to do it, you just have to be ready to take charge and do it..
2006-12-12 14:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by tarina12002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your told....
from God
there is only one 'Right"
so chose
2006-12-12 14:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋