My 2 1\2 daughter wont stop biting. When she cant get her own way she will bite. Not only does she bite me she will bite the furniture, her clothes or anything around her. When she has bitten me i have bitten her back not hard though only hard enough for her to realize what she had done wrong. But that doesnt seem to make a difference as she keeps doing it. What am i supose to do to make her stop and to make her realize its wrong and shouldnt do it?
2006-12-12 14:34:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Biting is one of the toughest problems we parents face, as it is one of the easiest ways for a child to really hurt somebody! It always gets a great reaction (which is generally what they are after, even if it is negative). The urge to punish here is very strong - especially if you're the one getting bit! However, training will work better than punishment. We've found that with most behaviors that we don't like, if we take time at a neutral moment (i.e. NOT right after something happens, but when everyone is in a good place) to tell our children that biting people or animals is not okay, but they can bite this special toy, a pillow, the ground, or whatever, things work out better. The child wants to bite - that is okay, they just can't bite people. Give them SOMETHING to bite. Make it fun! When they appear to be ready to bite, give them the thing that is okay for biting and praise them for biting that rather than you. Time outs are not going to work well for this (nor do they work well for most stuff). You need to take time to do training, and give them an alternative. It's more work but we get better results overall than punishment. There's a great website, www.asktulum.com that has a lot of articles on Positive Discipline and goes over some very common situations. We've found it very useful.
2006-12-12 14:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my... i know exactly how you feel.
When my eldest daughter was 18 months she also was a "biter". Her speciality was other children @ daycare, she would bite them that hard she would bruise them.
It was explained 2 us that bcuz she doesn't have the vocabulary to articulate what she wants/needs she gets frustrated & feels the only way is by biting. It certainly got EVERYBODY's attention, just the wrong kind of attention.
The key is 2 be consistant with the punishment & 2 follow thru.
We don't believe that biting her back is a good example 4 her 2 follow (it never worked 4 us either...lol) they r 2 little 2 fully understand why we do it... however, they r not 2 little 2 understand right from wrong.
U really need 2 be patient... if she bites u tell her how that it is naughty & that u r not going 2 play with her & that there are no toys/dvds etc. Tell her that it hurt u (honestly - don't overdramatize with fake tears, & the like)
Then she needs 2 go 2 a "time-out" for 3 minutes. On the "time-out" there is NO interaction with her - don't reward even more BAD behaviour.
After the "time-out" u need 2 ask her why & what she has done wrong.
She needs to apologise & u then get to make-up with a kiss & a cuddle.
If she bites the furniture or anything else this also needs to be squashed & don't turn it in2 a game - its NOT a game. It is not socially acceptable behaviour for any aged child.
There is no magic cure that is going 2 make this all better instantly... only your perseverance, and lots of patience,
remember this is ur baby girl & this is the first of many life lessons that u r going 2 guide her thru.
The decisions that u make 2day will shape her for the rest of her life
GOOD LUCK, our prayers r with u!!
2006-12-13 02:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will hate me for saying this, but, get a few small water pistols, fill them up and put them around the house where she cant reach them. When she bites something quickly give her a squirt, hide the gun and say no sharply, then ignore her. It will shock the **** out of her the first few times you do it, but i bet she stops biting real quick. It sounds brutal but isnt it better than her hurting herself or someone else.
2006-12-14 01:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Big red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your biting her isn't going to make her stop biting...You're giving her the signal that it is OK to bite when she is angry! When she goes to bite you put her in time out. If you can't do that get a child gate and put it in the doorway of her room. When she bites put her in her room and tell her that when she can behave she can come out. Biting, hitting, abusing a child isn't going to make them stop biting and hitting it only reinforces the idea that it is okay for them to do it.
2006-12-12 14:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take her to the docter to see if there is any thing mental w/her. then to a school that teaches little girls how to behave
P.S. i am only 16 and dont know all that much about parenting
pleas pick me!!!!!!!
2006-12-12 14:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by ashlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY SON IS THE SAME WAY PUT HER IN A PLAY PEN OR HER CRIB AND MAKE HER STAY THERE FOR AWHILE AND IM GOING TO DO THE SAME AND LETS SEE HOW IT WORKS GOOD LUCK TO YOU :)
2006-12-12 14:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naughty spot naughty spot naughty spot. Repeat.
2006-12-12 14:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put something that tastes REALLY nasty on that which she's not supposed to bite.
2006-12-12 14:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Cold Fart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i HAVE A 2 1/2 YEAR OLD AND I PUT HIM IN HIS CRIB WHEN HE IS NAUGHTY AND IT WORKS AT THIS AGE THEY KNOW RIGHT FROM WRONG, BUT YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTANT WITH THE PUNISHMENT AND MAKE THEM APOLOGIZE..EVEN TO THE COUCH...LOL
2006-12-12 14:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would were some thing under your clothes that makes who ever hits you , you won't feel it.
2006-12-12 14:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by DeLondra S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋