I didn't find out until his cell broke on a date and he couldn't call me for four days. When he got the phone back and I asked why dont have I have another # for you he said we'd talk later. Then no call for another 4 days. So I looked up his office number and confronted him.
How is it possible that I didnt see the signs? Bringing his briefcase to my place when he wasn't going to/coming from work, obsessed with fixing his hair after sex, never taking me home with him (said he lived with his mom) and on and on... maybe it would help to hear other peoples similar stories.
2006-12-12 14:23:02 · 6 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be too hard on yourself. At the beginning of a relationship, we tend to only see the good things! We notice how much we have in common, how cute the little things are that they do, how special they make us feel, how much they turn us on. They, too, are on their best behavior, and not likely to let you see those little clues that they might just be less than perfect. Eventually they slip, or a little bit of reality sneaks in...and our castle in the clouds comes crashing down.
I dated a guy once that was married, and I had no idea until his wife called me! I was horrified and tried to tell her how sorry I was. She actually seemed like she believed me after a while. I never talked to the guy again. Good luck!
2006-12-12 14:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by hdgrrl72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I dated a guy for six months b4 finding out he was married.(And yes I had asked if he was married or had a g/f b4 we got involved and of course he said no).
I lived in a town near a military base..it was like 45 min away and the guy was from Michigan and we were in NC.
So we dated for like 6 months. He spent every weekend with me. I had went to the base and seen him, met his friends, he even had me talk to his grandmother on the phone one time.
Then all of the sudden one Sat. he decided he needed to go back to the base cuz he "had a lot on his mind". That was unusual cuz like I said, he always spent every weekend with me and b4 he left he hugged me really long and tight and I knew something was wrong.
Long story short I went out that night and he ended up in the same spot and when I asked him what was going on I was like "what are you married or something?" then I laughed cuz I didn't really think that was it. He just sat there. So there was my answer. I lost it....I was soooo upset. I cussed him out and told him never to call me again. I mean this guy talked about marrying ME,but already had a wife!(She was back in Michigan) What an a.s.s.hole!!
Don't feel bad honey...we don't always know. That's why I hate lying..it robs the other person of their choice and I would definitely never choose to be with a married man. He called forever after that but I wouldn't take his calls.
Just make sure you cut it off now that you know. Sorry that happened sweetie. Good luck.
2006-12-12 14:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlie .. you are only 19!! you are still so young.I know you have met alot of no good knuckleheads. So have I I am 23 girl and still have not found that one ..And still dealing with these dogg azz men.They tell me to be patient also but I'm half way in my 20's you can't possibly feel bad.Your mr. right is coming in time.Don't rush it and he is worth waiting for.I have to stay strong everyday because i feel how you do.Only worst because I'm older and everyone asks why am I alone.I chose to turn celibate and kiss dating goodbye""I'm gonna pray and stay strong and focus on my career.There are other things in life besides men honey, they are going to always be here.Slow down a bit and focus on you.Getting yourself strong and ready for that special man.He's coming everything good is worth waiting for.I'm gonna do the same because I'm too good of a woman.To be treated like I was by these dogs. stay up.. girlie
2016-05-23 16:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I never had a bvoyfriend so no for me. I have had a few girlfriends that were married with brats and I usre enjoyed them while it lasted.
Live and enjou.
2006-12-12 14:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be better prepared the next time . we do live and learn .
2006-12-12 14:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh man...dat sucks...do u hate him?
2006-12-12 14:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋