The other person doesn't act interested in doing it.
2006-12-12 14:22:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Isn't getting presents supposed to be about surprises.
2006-12-12 14:35:01 · update #1
It's ok....at least you get what you want!
2006-12-12 14:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he just isn't good at figuiring out what to get. My husband was never a good gift giver. He always told me if I wanted something, go buy it. At Christmas he would have me go buy my own present then bring it to his office and he would wrap it up. Through the years he has surprised me with a few really GOOD surprises though. Like one year a got myself a new outfit and when I opened it there was a diamond necklace as well. He has gotten better with age and the best thing our three boys never knew and now that they are grown they try so hard to get just right gifts their wives really want.
Having to buy your own gift is a lot better than getting something you will just have to return the next day.
2006-12-12 14:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by j.m.glass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negative side-the other person is either a jerk or feels anxious at the thought of buying the wrong thing.
Positive side-you get to buy EXACTLY what you want...how cool is that? Plus, I love to wrap presents, so that's good to (for me).
Note-I do like surprises though and you wouldn't have any this way, but hey, maybe you can give the money to a friend and tell them to buy you something from the jerk...?????
2006-12-12 14:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that person is probably a wife or a mother. Lots of men want nothing to do with Christmas shopping or wrapping. I remember my Dad would give my brother and I money to go into the store and purchase things for my Mother from him. Then when we got home he would try to wrap them and cuss out the tape sticking to his fingers. That is sad though about having to wrap your own presents.
2006-12-12 15:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by up_all_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think you were talking about my mother.
She tends to want "specific" things and is never all that excited about my choices. -- So... she picks it out, buys it, wraps it - signs my name.. and gives me the bill! (usually things more expensive then I can afford)- Top that one .-lol
Now, your question: I don't feel the giving is about the surprise.
-I believe it is about the effort one person takes to chose a specific gift for another person.
-Time and Thought = Sincerity and Caring (to me).
That being said - I would feel sad for the person that has to buy their own gift and wrap it.
I can't imagine they would feel all that great either. (unless, of course,.. they are my mother!-lol)
And the uninterested person... They should be smacked on the head a few times! ...
2006-12-13 12:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me and my Husband has been together for 20 yrs and he has only bought be presents a couple of time.I used to get so mad and hurt because to me he should want to do this.But this year he said why don't you go buy your Christmas Present your self,well again it does bother me.But I went out and bought me a coat and a new outfit and gloves.Then went to my Work Christmas party all by myself,I was dressed nicely for it,why not go?.I do wish I could get a gift from him to unwrap on Christmas but it ain't going to happen .
2006-12-12 14:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single parents have to do it all the time. Some circumstances are beyond our control. If you are single with children have to do what it takes to keep their children believing in Santa. I actually like getting money as a gift so I can buy exactly what I want.
2006-12-12 15:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than nething i feel sad for that person....cuz there is no1 else to buy a gift...n the person has to buy his/her own gift , wrap it n present it to oneself...
The person wud even be try and wrap it in the best way psbl cuz he wants to feel special and since there is no1 else to make him feel that way, he has to do it himself...
That person needs LOVE!
2006-12-12 15:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by 19Raindorf25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That they are in the wrong set of people. I mean, okay...my spouse and I don't get each other anything for Christmas either. But that is a decision we made and it is wonderfully beneficial to both of us. It's just one less source of stress during the holidays.
2006-12-12 14:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by makingthisup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some men (I assume it's a man) are just like that. You are lucky you get to buy your own gift. Some wives don't get any gifts.
2006-12-12 17:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a present.
2006-12-13 01:42:00 · answer #11 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋