2006-12-12 14:08:25 · 15 answers · asked by Atomikk_Dogg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What are your reservations about this upcoming marriage? You need to sit down and be with honest with yourself. How long have you had these feelings? How intense are they?
Once you figure out what the root of your issue is, it is only fair to discuss it with your future spouse. Holding it all in will just build a barrier in your relationship. Try doing some physical activity (i.e., jog, yoga, walking...) to get rid of your excess nervous energy. Take a few moments to relax (and give yourself some "YOU" time). Try to think with an open mind about your future/marriage. Think about all the things you love about your fiance. Think about all the things you look forward to doing together.
Don't make rash judgments or actions. You will just hate yourself for it later.
2006-12-12 15:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd cancel the wedding now. Even though you've been together for nine years, it's clear that he's not ready for marriage. And I don't believe you two are on the same page about what you'd want in a marriage anyway. It's best to sacrifice the money paid for a wedding that doesn't take place than to go ahead with the wedding only to be shelling out even more money in nine months to a year for divorce proceedings. Instead, take some time and invest in couples counseling to make sure you're on the same page. Then you can reschedule the wedding at a later time if that's what you decide to do.
2016-03-29 05:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have some cold feet before a wedding, calm down and enjoy all the wedding events, take some time to relax before the wedding with all there is do do before a wedding no wonder you get cold feet. Relax and have a wonderful and a Happy Marriage.
2006-12-12 16:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depends on just how cold your feet are? Getting pre-wedding jitters is normal but if you are having serious second thoughts you really do need to take heed...it would be far better to call things off now than have to go to a lawyer later...make a list of all the reasons why you want to get married to this person and all the reasons you are having second thoughts...
2006-12-12 14:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is said that we never fully appreciate what we have until we lose it. Imagine losing your future spouse. I know this is morbid, but sometimes I imagine that my bf is (God Forbid!) fatally ill or injured, lying in a hospital bed. When I am thinking like this, when he comes home, I find myself leaping into his arms and giving him the biggest hug. He's like "Whooaa!!! What's this for? ha ha" But he has a big smile, and I remember how lucky I am to have him, and not to take him for granted. Sometimes those "morbid" thoughts remind you how lucky you are, and how precious the person really is to you...
2006-12-12 14:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by F 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular belief , it is not normal to get cold feet . That is why we have so many divorces today . People don't pay attention to our own feelings anymore .
2006-12-12 14:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think back about your relationship and why you love him and why you said yes to being married in the first place.
Hopefully you'll be looking back on happy memories and the prospect of making more happy memories!
2006-12-12 14:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by k80_k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you feel about the person u are about to marry? Are u true to your feelings? Do yu really want to be with this person? Answer these questions, and that should ease your mind.
2006-12-12 14:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put on some good warm socks and just settle down.
2006-12-12 14:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember da reasons why you wanted to marry the person in da first place....remember what good times you had 2gether...n what more u would like to have as husband and wife....remember the reasons why you love the person......remember your fights, laughter, make-ups, and love......remember what makes he/she special to you......
2006-12-12 14:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋