I need help with making it clear that its not a date... without actually saying that :S?

Question

This summer me and my friend Dan (Who knew I used to love him)got really close and he asked me to the movies with him. I thought nothing of it but I realized afterwards what it meant. My cousin Mac and His fiance Cate didn't want me to go with Dan so I went with my cousin, his friend and Dan.During the movie Dan sat down on the first seat so I would have to sit beside him and only him (He told me this after and it was to "bug my cousin") and then during the movie my head went on his shoulder unintentionally. Anyway I went to Dan recently to ask for guy help and Dan told me to tell the guy that I like him by asking him to the movies. But now I want to bring Dan to the movies because I'm going with Mac and Cate but I don't want him to think its a date cuz its not I just haven't seen him in 2months and I miss him. Thanks for the help!

Answer 1

Tell him "Hey, a few of us are going to the movies and I thought you might want to come along too." Then arrange with Mac and Cate ahead of time that you'll sit next to one of them at the movies.

Answer 2

Maybe sub-consciously you want it to be a date. If you want to see him why not stir it up and go to dinner or something else. There is no way to make it clear to him that it isn't a date unless you say it isn't. When you are out you should make it clear that you only want to be friends with him because it sounds like he likes you and he may think you are stringing him along.

Answer 3

Be honest and up front and tell him that you are only interested in being friends with him, don't play games or beat around the bush. Be clear and concise, as you don't owe him anything, and he will appreciate your honesty, in the long run at least.

Answer 4

Don't sit next to him, maybe even talk about an ex you've had. that's a sure sign you're not interested. keep it to group discussions; don't get to personal with him.