My brother and his wife recently moved out of there flat and my mum said they could stay with us for a few months until they find somewhere. My sister in law asked my mum if her parents could stay with us over Christmas and she said yes aslong as they asked me and my sister and we said yes. Now I don't mind her parents coming for Christmas because we have quite a big house and my other sister has gone to work in France for a year and can't make it back for Christmas so we have alot of free rooms. But my sister in law her family and my brother are really Christian and always pray before we eat. My sister and my mum are also quite religious but don't usually pray. They will now expect me to pray before we eat or atleast not eat while they're praying but I don't want to. I have no objection to them praying but I don't believe in it so don't see why I should pray or not eat while they're praying and let my dinner go cold. So what should I do to avoid any arguments?
2006-12-12 13:42:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
BTW don't say pray or wait to eat while they're praying because I wont. I respect their right to pray so why can't they respect my right to not pray?
2006-12-12 13:43:43 · update #1
The best you can do is to be gracious to your guests. you don't have to participate in the prayer but you should respect them enough to refrain from eating until they have finished praying. A prayer doesn't take that long before a meal.
2006-12-12 13:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've obviously put alot of thought into this scenario already. If you feel strongly that you may be asked to say grace, maybe you could practice something simple to say, so that you're (i) prepared, (ii) confident enough to say grace and (iii) secure in the fact that you know what to say so that you can enjoy the meal and not worry about whether they might ask you to say grace. Think of nice things to say, say it from your heart and don't be afraid if you stumble over your words. You could thank the family for inviting you to have a meal with them, give thanks for the time of fellowship, thanks for the food, bless everyone with good health and prosperity. There are any number of things you can be thankful for but, the more you pray out loud, the better you get--the smoother the execution. As they say, practice makes perfect, and it's never too late to start thanking God for all the blessings in your life. Good luck
2016-03-29 05:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it a common rule of etiquette for everyone to begin eating together? The rule doesn't apply to waiting only for what u deem alright to wait for. How long could the prayer realistically take? U sound very childish. U claim to respect their rt to pray and u say u hv no objection but ur intended actions don't support those statements. By eating thru the prayer ur in fact protesting that they r praying.
2006-12-12 13:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by •♦๑•TxRose•♦๑• 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question sounds exactly like something my husband would write. i just cannot understand why you wouldn't put up with the few seconds of time it takes for them to pray especially if you are religious and just choose not to say grace.
if you are that against it then why don't you just mention to them that you don't bless your meals but they can feel free to do it if they wish.
normally if someone is a guest in your home you go out of the way to make them feel comfortable.
what does your mother feel about this situation? it is her house and her call so it really isn't up to you. if your mom wants you to respect her houseguest then that is what you should do.
take care! SD
2006-12-12 13:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've managed to effectively constrain the problem to the point that the only available "answer" is the one you expect people to offer up to you.
2006-12-12 13:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your making a big deal out of nothing. It's not your house.
2006-12-13 14:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, ya pig....you can't wait 20 seconds for them to pray before you start eating. It sounds pg headed to me....
2006-12-12 13:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Allen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are living in your own home and paying your own bills and buying your own food, you shut your mouth and do what you're told you spoiled brat!
2006-12-12 13:48:08 · answer #8 · answered by revulayshun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boo hoo hoo good grief give it a break
2006-12-12 13:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Terry S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how many days do you have to deal with this...Not like they are telling you to change...
2006-12-12 13:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by I give you the Glory Father ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋