well my friend is bi..which is tottaly alright...but he keeps hitting on me and i think he thinks im bi....i dont know what to do cause i hate being mean to people expically my friends
2006-12-12 13:41:34 · 18 answers · asked by ollie c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is he just joking around with you, or do you really think he is actually trying to make a move on you?
It seems like everyone I know who is bi are total flirts, that's just part of their sense of humor. He is probably just teasing you, but if it really is making you uncomfortable tell him. If you are real worried about hurting his feelings try doing it as a joke at first like "Hey! Tone it down! How am I supposed to pick up any chicks with a guy hanging on me?" and laugh about it. He'll probably get the hint.
2006-12-12 13:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're truly friends then you should be honest and just say, "Hey, because I think of you as one of my closest friends, I'm going to be honest... I really like spending time with you, and you're a good friend. But I don't think dating would work, because I find my self more attracted to men." Then say how you would keep her secret or help her find someone or something.
2016-03-29 05:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that, while you're comfortable with him being bi....YOU on the other hand are not, that you are indead strictly heterosexual. If he's any kind of friend at all....he will understand and respect this. If he keeps bothering you about it. Lose him as a friend...b/c he isn't one.
2006-12-12 13:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by fishing_for_wingnuts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow of most of the answers so far:-
"Hey, we're friends, but that isn't my scene. We were friends before this got in the way, we can still be friends - but not that way!"
I have straight friends who I know aren't bi - and we're still friends. They know I won't try it on with them.
I've got 'girl friends' (OK, we're adults, not teenagers/twenties!), who know the reverse - not to try it on with me. We're still friends.
You're not being 'mean' to him by speaking the truth, and if he's a friend - and values you as a friend, not a bedmate - he'll accept it.
And, WHATEVER ELSE!, don't 'give in' to him because he's a friend and you feel like you're being mean!! You've got your values and he's got his - don't compromise yours!!
2006-12-12 13:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be mean to be blunt and honest with someone. Let him know he is making you uncomfortable and you don't like it when he "hits" on you. Tell him you are cool with his choices and he should respect yours as much as you respect his. If he is a good friend he will listen if he doesn't then he is not much of a friend.
2006-12-12 13:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what is the problem? If he was not bi would you still have the same reaction? Tell him how you feel. If he is a true friend, he will respect your feelings.
2006-12-12 13:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be mean. Just tell him you aren't bi. If don't he'll think you are just playing hard to get.
2006-12-12 13:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him your not bi- and that if he wants to continue your friendship he should respect you and your decisions.
2006-12-12 13:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hint around to him that you are straight. If he doesn't get the point then just tell him. You don't have to be mean
2006-12-12 13:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by vcheney84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an honest, down-to-earth discussion with him. Tell him that you're just friends, and that you hope to keep it that way... Yay!!
2006-12-12 13:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Alex J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋