i have been in a relationship for about 6 months now and i am ready to break up with my boyfreind because the relationship is no longer the same we go to diffrent schools which make it even more difficult to be together for me and there is no way possible my mother will accept him (im only 17 so she still has major say... cant wait till 18)but i dont know how to break it to him because latley he has been saying things like i love you sooo much and i never want to lose you can any one help me with my situation?
i have commitment issuses that i have come to terms with ( do not need any ones preaching) and coming in to this relationship he knew about this and many of these problems before we got together
2006-12-12 13:39:14 · 16 answers · asked by demolitionlover71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you find that you dont have feelings for him anymore, you can't force a relationship no matter how many times he tells you he loves you. but if you're just taking the easy way out because you cant be bothered putting in effort to maintain the relationship now you are in different schools, then you should think carefully about whether you will regret it.
but anyway, you are still really young... i mean, im 17 as well and i finally realised that the whole dating thing... you dont need to force it. you have so much ahead of you and if you just let things go a bit and enjoy yourself you will find that someone amazing will eventually appear out of nowhere and when you least expect. love definately cant be forced or pushed... true loves more of a realisation of feelings.
parents should definately be a big factor in ur choice at such a young age, because like it or not, mum's got a lot more experience than us right? so its good to see you are thinking about your mums opinion.
maybe your mum's unacceptance of him is a sign that you should look somewhere else for a boyfriend.
2006-12-12 14:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by risa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think you have commitment issues... it's just the fact that you are young. You are 17 years old, you are meant to date around. (I'm not saying to be promiscuous, I'm just saying you shouldn't consider settling down yet)
If you no longer want to be in a relationship you should let him go. There is no point stringing the relationship out longer then your heart wants it to be. Let him down gentle... let him know you want to talk. Stop by his house to tell him that way you can leave whenever you are done with the conversation.
Even though he tells you he loves you and that he doesn't want to lose you... I think you should still break up with him if you don't really want to be in the relationship. He'll move on... he'll find a new love just like you will. (However, if there is a chance he might become suicidal warn his parents, his pastor/priest, his guidance counselor, or someone who is close to him)
Don't worry to much about it... like I said, he'll move on and you both will find new loves. :)
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-12 21:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by Albino1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have commitment issues--you're just 17 that's all. You don't need to be committed and in love right now! If you want to break up with him then do it before you string him along and hurt him even more in the long run. Don't stay in a relationship you don't want just b/c you don't want to upset him. Get it over with.
2006-12-12 21:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, sorry about this problem you are having. What you should do is sit down with him, I know it is the old-fashioned way, but trust me on this. Tell him you don't think this relationship is working out like it used to, and ask if you can still be friends. Explain it like a candy bar, you want other candy bars in life, not just one?! Hope everything works out between you two, and Merry Christmas!
Halloweener
2006-12-12 21:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u need 2 let him kno whatz going on. I mean itz better 4 him 2 kno so that he can deal with it and "heal" than 4 u 2 lead him on and not b happy. regardless of if u have commitment issues or not, u cant live your life according to others and trying to please others or else you'll have no happiness
2006-12-12 21:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by htown_thickness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong. You have to go with your gut feeling. If it's causing you this much turmoil it's probably better to end it. Yes he is going to be hurt, but that is the way life goes.
2006-12-12 21:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Firefighters Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that now is not the right time and you have some personal issues to work out and if he really cares he will give you the space you need...
2006-12-12 21:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just call him up and tell him what you said here. It's not working out. black and white. Just have some courage and tell him, don't send and e-mail or letter and for Godsake do not leave a message.
2006-12-12 21:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by phe_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong.
As far as committment issues, you're way too young to be tied down. Enjoy life, experience as much as you can.
2006-12-12 21:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by blue.green_eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you feel smothered....by all of his i love you's etc.
sit down and think of why you're with him in the 1st place...if nothing really comes to mind...it's time to end it.
2006-12-12 21:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by football_crazy_62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋