ok so i liked this boy for a really long time. he lives in a different town than i do and i didnt really notice him until summer time. he doesnt have a cell phone either and i mostly talk to him online sometimes. we are both kinda quiet. i wanna go out with him and like he has never had a girl friend or even kissed before. i will be seein him soon and i want to flirt with him but idk what to do or say cause we are both the shy type . what should i do?
2006-12-12 13:29:52 · 4 answers · asked by ily_andhearts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not a natural flirt? Not to worry - anyone can learn the simple social skills that will attract others to you.
Instructions
•STEP 1: Start by working on your self-esteem. The underlying key to all flirtation is confidence, the magical charm that makes others want to get to know you.
•STEP 2: Smile, smile, smile.
•STEP 3: Think playful thoughts when gearing up to flirt. Flirts are fun and engaging, and they love to play with others.
•STEP 4: Compliment him on his clothes, eyes, smile or sense of humor for starters.
•STEP 5: Keep your body language open and inviting: make eye contact, lightly touch the person's hand or arm when telling a story, and toss your head back when you laugh.
•STEP 6: Initiate stimulating conversation. At a loss for words? Ask open-ended questions about the flirtee's job, hometown, family, recent movies seen, or thoughts about a painting on the wall.
•STEP 7: Open up about yourself, giving someone even more reason to like you. But don't go on and on - the goal is to engage and intrigue, not bore.
•STEP 8: Gauge the person's interest carefully. If you sense a flashing red light - or worse, smug ridicule - make your exit graciously, and immediately. You've got nicer people to meet.
•STEP 9: Progress in your flirtation, paying attention to cues from the object of your interest. If you perceive a sensual or sexual connection, make a bold move.
Tips & Warnings
•Avoid negative body language such as crossing your arms, scowling, appearing overly stressed, looking downward or walking in a hurry when you don't really need to.
•Give yourself time to learn what types of conversation starters work for you. Practice flirting whenever you can - at the grocery store or Laundromat, or with your friends.
•Sexually suggestive remarks or touching are inappropriate among co-workers. Keep any office flirting G-rated at all times.
2006-12-12 13:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame, that you live in different towns, but go for it.
2006-12-12 21:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by furienna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself with him. Ask him if he wants to do something just the two of you and see how he reacts. Just take it slow
2006-12-12 21:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do wat feels rite. idk but good luck u'll need it!!
2006-12-12 21:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋