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Question

im loney some boys at my school like me but i dont like them i just want a boyfriend to go and talk to and cry on his sholder help me

Answer 1

I AM RIGHT HERE IN ATX, OK

Answer 2

listen up young lady, when u show desperation people pick up on it right away and that will surely sabotage any chance you have of finding the right partner for you.
Here is what you need to do:
Join a volunteer group in your area that holds an interest for you,
Get a library card and start reading every book that may interest u regarding self help.
If you feel lonely that may be that u might need some female guidance and not necessarily a boyfriend, that is a poor substitute for attention and it's looking for love in all the wrong places and for all the wrong reasons,
Best of luck to you, Be brave.
Irene

Answer 3

first of all, why are u lonesome? obviously there must be some that isnt so isolating seeing how there are boys hovering over you? and these boys, do you not like them becaue they are not your type, want you for all the wrong reasons, or are you just unsure of whether or not you are ready for a relationship. im sure you are a cute and samrt girl. true love will come soon. in the mean time, there will always be a shoulder for you to cry on.

Answer 4

u know what i feel the same way sometimes but i sit outside at night under the beautiful stars knowing one day i will find someone to go and talk to and cry on his shoulder but, i understand that i have to be patient and wait till I'm ready to get married which would be in my early 20s maybe late 20s... but be patient if u rush the need for a relationship the relationship u find will end at some point .....i do feel the way u feel now but i've learn to wait but just because i learned to wait doesn't mean i feel the same way when the time comes u will find him but be careful when u go looking
BYE

Answer 5

Why don't you like the guys at your school? I mean if you really want a boyfriend then you have to lower your standards, not too much though. You cannot just go for a guy that looks like Brad Pitt and crap. You have to go for what you have, just look for a decent guy that will treat you right

Answer 6

They are showing a news special here where a guy who ran a prostitution ring tells how he recruited women. They have no self image, and he exploited that, and pampered them and got them their own apartment, then he had them working the streets. The people who are saying "dont be desperate" are right, its very easy to be used, and hurt.

You are saying "I want a boyfriend" and I think you are wrong. Isnt that arrogant of me? The word "boyfriend" is a loaded term and to most teenage boys it means you are giving them a way into your pants. Thats not what you are looking for.

Try describing what you really want by making a list of it using primarily verbs. This person must hug me. This person must talk to me. This person must listen to me. This person must respect me and treat me with respect. This person must be trustable and worthy of my trust.

See how they all start with "this person must". The part that comes after that is the verb phrase. Write at least 100 verb phrases that describe the person you need. Now write another list for the person you DO NOT need. Dont just put the opposte of whats in your first list. For example: this person must not touch me inappropriately. etc...

Looking at those lists, some of those musts are really needed, and some are pretty flexible. If you put "this person must attend all of my classes", or "this person must be 6'12" with bulging biceps", those are more negotiable than "this person must listen to me", "this person must be trustworthy". Only after you have made the long list can you perform this step of shortening it. Reduce the list down by eliminating everything you can go without, but keeping everything you need.

I know it sounds like its taking forever, but you are halfway done. Right now you know what you want, you should have a very well thought out, very clear picture. Lets compare that with what a boyfriend is, not what you now wish you had, but what your peers understand a boyfriend to be. Ask your girlfriends, without letting them see your list, to write down the 10 best things a boyfriend actually ever did for them, the 10 worst things a boyfriend ever did for them, and the 10 most common ways they were treated by a boyfriend. Make sure they use a lot of verbs. Make sure you ask at least 5 girlfriends.

Now compare your list of what you are looking for, with what they have. First take their lists and highlight the verbs that are more frequent. If 5 of your friends all say that boyfriends do it, its a more common feature of the "boyfriend". If only one of them does it might be a fluke. Write down their combined list with the more common stuff first. Now compare what your friends actual experience is with your desired relationship.

If there is 70% line-up then in terms of filling your needed relationship the "boyfriend" relationship gets a grade of C. Lets see if you can find an A. (if math curious, see appendix)

List all possible relationships, every one.. grandpa, pastor, husband, ... and then compare what they offer with whats written down. You are being genuine here, and looking for what you are needing. After making a big list of 20 names, boil it down to the top 5 candidates, and have your friends make their 10 bests, worsts, and most commons again.

See what you come up with. At worst its an interesting exercise, but at best it clarifies your vision for relationship by having you state what you need, and then find out what reality offers. Knowing what your needs are is valuable in and of itself. Knowing what realistic relationship expectations are is valuable in and of itself.

I think you could share your results with your mother, and get her insight on it. Listen to hear her heart. Does she have suggestions? Older ladies (like mom) are people who have lived life, and walked it, and have really valuable expertise. They know where the rocks of life are, how to tell what they are, and how to avoid them. Its absolutely priceless information.

Answer 7

Many good relationships begin with friendships.
Make a friend.

Answer 8

maybe you can find a councelor at school to talk to hope all goes well

Answer 9

why don't you like them?

Answer 10

you lookin' for a boyfriend, here???