Last April my mom passed away. Her husband is now residing with me due to having no income and couldnt pay his rent. He cant work no more , he is disabled due to a surgery he had. He applied for social security. Thats a waiting game. After my mom passed on, My sister told me he has made come comments to her about her and him being 2 gather. He eventually scared her enuff that she wont go around him, And has nitemares. Now my sister is homeless and the only place she n her kids has 2 go is my house. That means I have to ask him 2 leave. And I feel so bad because he aint done nothing to me. Also he has no family here. I cant let my family go to a homeless shelter. How do I tell him he has to leave when I know he aint got no where to go ? My 2 nieces and nephew should come first , Right ? Any advice foir me ? Please help , running out of time.
2006-12-12 13:16:59 · 8 answers · asked by myblueyesr2qt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your family should come first, especially since there are young children involved. There are several programs designed for the disabled, get him to your local social services department so that he can get assistance. You are definitely in a tough spot, but your sister and her kids should come first. You said he doesn't have any family here, does that mean he has family somewhere? If so, then it's time someone else stepped up and took some of this burden off of you. He may have been your mother's husband, but you only have one sister and she is in need of your help now. Good luck to you!
2006-12-12 13:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by creole woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was completely sympathetic to this man until you said he made comments to your sister about him and her being together. He obviously wants to "keep in in the family"... but he would have to go. Tell him the situation and even offer him help to get him some sort of assistance... or better yet, POINT HIM IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION AND LET HIM TO THE WORK. Girl your family comes first! Are there any other family members that can help you get him out? Turn to them. Get your niece and nephew home. Take care of them.
2006-12-12 21:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by Plex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely put your sister first. He is a grown man. He can easily go to a shelter. Your sister needs you more right now. Besides, if he were a decent person, he wouldn't have to leave.
2006-12-12 22:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a predicament. On one hand you have your stepfather and on the other your sister. Your mother loved this man and he is disabled. Why can`t your sister get a job and get her own place for her family. Also are you sure that this man said this to your sister or does your sister not like him or jealous that he is there. Seems funny that he has said things to you (living with you) GOOD LUCK SORTING THIS OUT
2006-12-12 21:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are assistance programs out there. Assist him in that area to the best of your ability. Let him know ASAP, that way he will have some time to get it together. I don't know how soon you must make your decision but time is not on our side when we want it to be so do what needs to be done. FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY!
2006-12-12 21:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
throw him out! have the police throw him out! take him to the homeless shelter and take in your blood family.ASAP.you owe him NOTHING!!!
2006-12-12 21:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A VERY BAD SITUATION
2006-12-12 21:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by bettys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with god. pray faithfully, you will be shown the way.
2006-12-12 21:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by waljac6108 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋