There is this guy, nice (i guess), but sometimes I wonder about his sanity (will he grow up to be a cerial killer or live in his mother's basement sticking pins in voodoo dolls). He asked me to homecoming and I made some lame excuss of, "oh, well, I acually decided a long time ago that I was going stag this year, SORRY" and then he stood behind me, facing my back, the whole entire time- almost followed me into the bathroom once too. I've tried to give this guy a clue, but he just won't take it. Is there a nice way that I can let him down and make him stop stalking me, cause its starting to really freak me out.
2006-12-12 13:12:46 · 8 answers · asked by Ana♫ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nice people finish last. Tell this guy, point-blank, to get lost. I'd suggest a public place, and to go everywhere with friends for a while, just in case.
2006-12-12 13:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you check up pages on the following URL links.
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/pyramid.html
and
http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/five_stages.html#crime_development
I am not suggesting that you would need to slap this guy or somthing. But read the above 2 pages on the website
www.nonensenseselfdefense.com/
Since the problem you are asking is about how to "enforce you personal boundary" or how to "secure and make the other person aware of your boundaries and make him respect it"
The pyramid talks of 6 levels including "verbal boundary enforcement" prior to the 7th level in which one needs to defend physically. Hopefully one never needs to go to seventh level.
The second link is also useful.
It talks about how these people's mindsets work to seize opportunity. I am not saying this guy is criminal or something but he is trying to set it up and seize opportunity to put you in a vulnerable position. (Got the meaning ?)
So priniciples of avoiding such situation and ensuring your security and peace of mind are same even in this situation.
The website is very exhaustive in content and information but the above 2 links are I belive directly applicable to the problem you have stated.
Read these 2 section well and understand them. Remember them. They will always be helpful to you in your life not only in this particular problem but also in many situations that can potentially come up.
All the best.
Take care,
Keep safe
2006-12-13 01:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a guy friend who is really big pretend to be your boyfriend and just be seen with you all the time. Don't lash out at the guy or try to bully him - that might make him flip or something, just ignore him and hang out with big guy and maybe he will just go away.
2006-12-12 21:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by nursechic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang with a group where ever u go and u gotta tell this guy straigth up that u dont feel comfortable in his prescence and wan him 2 leave u alone if that doesnt work take legal action
2006-12-12 21:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm? Carrie Carrie would no hat to do fire fire all that good stuff .
How about wearing smelly colonge? or dye your hair or get a date for prom to tell him? Scary always works nose ring?
2006-12-12 21:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mudd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell honestly how you feel. Just let him know that you only want to be friends and that he needs to give you your space if he wants to continue the relationship. If he doesn't heed your wishes, then I would let the principle or his parents know.
2006-12-12 21:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by 3000gthottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he was following me around like that, i'd turn around and tell him that this here, what he is doing right now, is why he's not getting a date for the dance.
2006-12-12 21:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no means no
2006-12-12 21:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by demolitionlover71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋