Is your husband/boyfriend good to you all the time or just some times? Do we as women have unreal expectations from our men to be loving, attentive, honest, passionate, helpful (the list goes on).
Have we just accepted the fact that if he treats you the way you expect to be treated - say once a year - then that's good enough?
In comparison, women go out of their way on a daily basis to please our men & get nothing in return. At what point do you say enough is enough?
2006-12-12 13:04:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you feel that you are giving way more than what you're getting, than this is the time to talk. Harboring feelings like these can sometimes lead to resentment and eventually irreperable damage towards each other. Nip these things in the bud and lay down the ground rules early if you can. If the guy doesn't respond, than he's probably wrong for you anyway, so send him packin'
There are some of us that know how to treat our loved ones, and some of us have to be tought.
Good luck, Happy Holidays
2006-12-12 13:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Islander 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question....u are right we women do go out the way to please boyfriends/husbands but they cant see that..i dont know if its a man thing or what..I would like for bf/husband to notice the little things once in a while. I mean its like women can notice just about anything on their man bc they pay attention to the little things.I dont think that getting treated how u want to by your man once in a while is enough..We dont have unreal expectations...I guess its just that we can do everything in the world to be the best but they (men/bf/husbands) dont do everything to be the best they can be..i mean what got yall together in the first place?? But I always treat my bf the same way he treats me then everythings good bc he sees that it doesnt feel to good if he puts himself in my shoes.
2006-12-12 13:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you could find an answer here. We all have differents level of acceptance. For some once a year is very good and other not acceptable. That does not mean that the person who accept that a man treat er nice once a year, have a low self estime or low expectation, that just mean she may have other point of hapineaa or that she found wonderful quality about her man. At the end, this not about how he treat you...but how you feel about him.
2006-12-12 13:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is enough when you say its enough. However, be sure that you have clearly communicated your needs. As women, we sometimes just expect men to know when to give us cards, help around the house, or just sit and listen. Men cannot read minds. If you need something, tell them. A good man will do everything he can to accommodate your request, but you can't be afraid to ask and be specific. My boyfriend is absolutely wonderful. He treats me as well as I expect to be treated - with respect, affection, and sweetness. But, I sometimes have to tell him what I need. It's a lot easier than playing the game of "guess what I'm feeling/thinking/needing today". Be direct and you'll get results if he really cares about you.
2006-12-12 13:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by angel444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a difficult question to answer. As women, we expect guys to read between the lines and throw us constant (and pleasant) surprises. But, because relationship is a two-way street and because guys do not think the way we do (they say men are from mars and women are from venus), communication is the key. Sometimes, guys have to be told the first time to do something. If they really mean to please us, all will fall into place.
2006-12-12 13:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you kind of explained it hun. you're right in every way, and i'm glad to hear i'm not the only one who feels the same way. our husbands don't appreciate $hit and i get extremely impatient and frustrated with him. he doesn't do anything out of his way to help me and i've been trying to make him understand that for the last three years. NOTHINGS changed, and i guess in time, i'm going to have to move on...because i deserve to be loved and cared for too. you know, it's like, i give him, my daughter all the love and support and attention...but i don't have anyone taking "care" of me. it's disturbing and unfair. the hard part is...aren't all men that way? who can i move on to next? maybe not get married all together and be a free bird in the sky...who knows. but good luck to all you ladies, and stay strong. i think i'll have an affair sooner or later :)
2006-12-12 13:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important to remember that men's brains work differently. So you asking him to pick up towels from the bathroom floor won't get absorbed unless you actually sit him down and explain why you need him to do that, and that you feel disrespected if he doesn't. Men are like children, they need strong explanations and encouragement when they do the right thing. We can't expect them to just know what we want, even though it is pretty easy for us to figure out what they want!
2006-12-12 14:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The breaking point is when a man looses sight of you being the person he is in love with and playing the relationship safe by not making efforts to be active and help keep things fun with me. I should not be the only one with the brains in this two person relationship.
2006-12-12 13:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by J J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While a part of me wants to go "right on", the other part knows that first impressions are the most important ones. People first judge you by the way you look and if they like that then they take what you have to say seriously, but if they're disgusted by the way you look, they're not going to listen.
2016-05-23 16:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋