anyone lost a close loved one this past year, or ever, and how did you get through it, and how are you doing now? Any emotional support is much appreciated. Thanks.
2006-12-12 13:02:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you all for the emotional support. Your words are very comforting to me at this time. Please know that I am sorry for each of your losses. This is a rough time of the year for me anyway, but with the death of my brother just 6 mos.ago, it is all the more difficult. Thank you again for your kind and thoughtful replies. God Bless.
2006-12-12 14:31:10 · update #1
I am so sorry to hear that. I lost a loved one last year. My dad passed away on Thanksgiving day. I just try to take it day to day. That's the only way I can keep it in perspective. I keep his memory close to my heart. Before he passed away, he gave me his wedding ring. I wear it everyday on my necklace close to my heart, and it never comes off. It has made me realize that life is too short for all the fighting and bickering we do in our lives. When I think back to all the arguments we had, I realize how petty they were and how much time I lost that I could have spent with him. The best thing that I can tell you is to take it day to day. Never lose track of your love for your brother. Never forget the good times, or even the bad times, because that's what made your relationship with your brother unique. I know it sounds strange, but even the bad times made your relationship stronger. I know that's what it did for me. Hold on to the good times that you shared together, and never forget about him. He is a big part of you, and always will be. Even though he is gone, I'm sure he will not be forgotten. Keep your chin up and know that he loves you, even though he isn't here. He may not be here in body, but he is here in spirit and always will be. If there was something the two of you used to do together, Keep on doing it. It will bring fond memories of your relationship. My dad and I used to go on an annual fishing trip in Tennessee. After he passed away, I decided to carry on the tradition with my son. We go down to the same resort and get the same room my dad and I used to get. It gives me a chance to reflect on our relationship, and also gives me a chance to have talks with my son about his grandpa. Just knowing that we go down to the same resort comforts my son when he is feeling down about grandpa passing away. And whenever he catches a fish, he always says "This one is for you grandpa". It is a painful time, but I know that he is in a better place now, and one day we will be together again. I sure hope this helps you out. Keep the faith and know that it gets better. Peace.
2006-12-12 13:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Three years ago I lost my dad just before Christmas and I thought i would never make it through the Holidays ,but I did with the help of family and friends .It has been 3 years ,but i still miss him so much this time of the year so I know what you are going through .I am truly sorry for your loss and may god be with you this Christmas and the year to come.
2006-12-12 14:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first few years will be hard. It's the worst around birthday time. You will learn to cope better as days go by. Everyone copes differently, some people come together while others fall apart, you will become a stronger person because of this, just think of what you brother would want
2016-05-23 16:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother died on Dec. 10th two days before my brothers birthday. We had a really hard time the first year but decided to use it as an extra chance to celebrate. This took time, but we look at Christmas as a celebration of her life and what she got out of Christmas more so than what we did. She was my mommy and I will never forget that....but there are so many things to be thankful for. My mother is in heaven and my brother remembers this every birthday.
2006-12-12 13:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by editing4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 15 year old daughter passed away in 1999 from kidney failure. That first Christmas was SOOOO hard for us, she loved Christmas. It does get easier, but we still miss her and put up her stocking over the fireplace every year. Do good things for others and do it in your brothers name, and get out as often as you can. Being with other people instead of sitting at home will help some. Get through day by day. I'm sending good thoughts your way, sweetie
2006-12-12 13:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes we know exactly how you are feeling.
My niece passed away this summer. Its been hard to deal with she was only 17. My sons grandfather on his real dads side of the family passed away on Thursday of last week. So he knows how you are feeling. He is just dealing with this one day at a time.
Last year his best friends mom died 2 days before Christmas. He is still trying to deal with this. He is finding it hard because right now because its getting close to the time she died.
I tell him that it takes time for things to get better. The hurting goes away with time.
Just remember all of the go times that you had with your brother. Memories are the best thing to go by, the will always be with you.
2006-12-12 13:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Boogerbum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My beloved brother passed away 11 years ago. I still miss him a lot. Most of all during Christmas, because we used to get together this time of the year. Time will lessen your grief, but it will always be a part of you. As time passes by, you will be better and better at coping with it. You will be able to allow yourself to mourn when you truly feel like it.... like having a button you can switch on and off- a luxury you don't have right now, because your brother just recently passed away..... but you will get there- trust me. Right now- feel the pain and mourn with all your heart and soul.
My condolences to you and your family.
2006-12-12 13:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A coup;e of days before christmas I lost my first love nad the father of my child and unborn child in a gun shotting.
The best way to carry on is to remember what they loved about the day, the fact that there still there in your thoughts and preys and remember you dont always have to be strong.
Good luck and I wish you all the best for the upcomming season.
2006-12-12 13:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by tumtum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i lost my mom 2 years ago and the pain is like yesterday. holidays and birthdays is the worst time when you lose someone so dear to you. think of the good times you shared with him you may still feel sad but when you think of some of the crazy things you both did together it will bring a smile to your face and always remember that he's in your heart.
2006-12-12 13:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by LIPS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my best friend on December 18, 1989. It hit me hard. I did everything with him (he even got me over my 2nd husband's death in '85 and my divorce from my 1st) and all of sudden I was alone. Christmas was horrible for me. I drank all day. I left my job and left my son in charge. During that time, I spent time with my grandchildren. I eventually got back to work. I think about him everyday.
2006-12-12 13:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋