I have a problem I am keeping a secret from mostly everyone but my best friends...Is it wrong to keep a secret when you afraid you are going to get hurt?...I am Bi and i am dating a Girl in my grade...my parents don't know and if they ever did i am afraid they will dislike me...now is it wrong that we like each other is being with the same sex bad?
2006-12-12 12:52:47 · 26 answers · asked by casey. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it is not wrong!
You are who you are!
Homosexual, Lesbian or Bi-sexual - it is normal.
People are just to ignorant to understand that it is
okay to be other than heterosexual!
You sound a bit young to think about marriage.
Wait and see where life will take you. For now,
be yourself, enjoy your friendship.
Yes, keep it to yourself - your mother will have to know eventually.
Your other friends do not need to know.
2006-12-12 13:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am from europe ,we are more relaxed about things there ,In America people tend to look for the oposite sex to have sex with .
But many other people fall in love with a certain personality ,you meet some body with whom you really hit it off,it is the mind which atracts you to this person,and some times this person happens to be the wrong sex ,socially speaking
Love of any kind can never be wrong,
Love is the most positive emotion that we humans got ,if it happens to be with somebody ,that other people object to .that is just too bad for them,and it does not concern them,What you think is of the only importance, it is not a reason to stop loving that person.
Love is not bad ,murder and violence is
Viva.
2006-12-12 21:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is being with the same sex bad?
Honestly, can't say whether or not it is bad or good.
But... depending on you and your happiness, that is the key.
If something makes you happy then it depends on you whether or not it is good or bad.
However, not telling the person that you are with the fact that you have dealings with someone else is just wrong. In my honest opinion, of course.
Be true to yourself, as well as others, if they are true to you, they will stand by your side no matter what.
2006-12-12 21:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by cometome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Some of the strongest ties I know are same sex relationships.
You can't judge by others' values, only what you deem to be right for you. Although that philophy obviously has limits.
There is nothing wrong with being bi or gay - you are not harming anyone and being yourself. Be proud of who you are. It's not easy - it should be - but it's not to have thsoe feelings.
2006-12-12 20:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Wonderpants 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No its not bad. I have alot of friends who are gay or bi. Theres nothing wrong with it. Its just a personal prefrence. Your parents will and should love you no matter what. It may take a little while for them to accept it but your still there child.
2006-12-12 21:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by Tanner and Leahs MaMa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it funny that the majority of people that would tell you that being in a same-sex relationship means you're going to hell are the same people that are supposed to believe that "judge not, lest ye be judged"?
You really shouldn't worry. You're following your own path, and you're exploring an area of your life that takes some people many, many years to come to grips with. At least you're being true to yourself.
2006-12-12 21:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by randomthoughtpatterns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not bad.....and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. You are free to love whoever you want. If your parents dislike you or disown you because of your sexual orientation, then they are close-minded dumbasses. You don't even have to tell your parents if you don't want to. Its not really their business.
Oh, and be careful with this secret, there are a lot of homophobes out there who (if they found out your secret) would do horrible things. So be careful who you tell.
2006-12-12 20:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by Abby C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are. You need to find someone you can talk to about this. When you finally decide whether or not you are truly a lesbian, then you can tell your parents. Do not live your life worried about what everyone else wants. It's YOUR life.
Also, don't let all the religious fanatics on this site make you feel that you're doing anything wrong. They are not you, and their beliefs are their own.
2006-12-12 20:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're asking this from a religious standpoint, i'm sure you're going to get a lot of idiots telling you you're going to hell - whatever!
You do what you enjoy doing. Date who you like. You owe NO ONE an explanation about how you live your life. Don't be afraid of what other people think - **** them! It's your life and you need to do what you want to do.
Good luck and don't be scared.
2006-12-12 20:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissy: The Angry Typer a/k/a Mood Mole 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe sexual orientation is something you are born with... you can't be any other way than the way you were born... Your parents will be shocked and even upset or hurt, but they deserve to know who you are... so be yourself... keeping it hid and to yourself will only leave you empty and a shamed... and there is no reason to be that way.
2006-12-12 20:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋