Everytime i meet a guy i always put up a wall. I never let them get close emotionally. I cant seem to open my heart up to someone. Is not that i dont want to i just seem to do it everytime. Whats wrong with me?? i want to feel that love but i dont let myself feel it?? How can i give myself a chance to love?? Help??
2006-12-12 12:35:35 · 9 answers · asked by nunez510 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this wall comes up from a relationship that you may or may not have had with your father. i do not know your situation but I am the same way. I had no father in my life and as stupid as this may sound, this relationship will gage how you have relationships with other men. I feel as though I am no pretty or not worthy of love because i did not have that father to tell me so. you need to let go of whatever feelings that you have about your father and open up. it will be hard because rifght now you are shielding yourself from the same heartbreak you felt with a possible absentee father. let this guy in so you can move on and if you have not already forgive your father and stop subconsciencously blaming yourself for the demise of your father/daughter relationship
2006-12-12 12:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by silentasalamb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can't blame you, I'm the same way. I'm like that because of my past relationships, I just figure why bother with all the effort of letting someone get emotionally close to me if it's just going to end up bad anyway...I know this is irrational thinking so I'm trying to change it. Maybe you're the same way...maybe it's your past relationships affecting you and have scared you in letting someone get close to you because you're scared you'll just get heart all over again...but as with anything great, you have to risk a lot to get a lot
2006-12-12 12:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by cute_but_dangerous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem... I don't have a solution but when I met THE girl I instantly knew it... (unfortunately she doesn't feel the same way.) Just act natural, and if that means putting up a wall, then so be it. Trust me, when you meet the one guy who doesn't instantly appear behind a wall... you'll fall in love... and you'll fall hard.
2006-12-12 12:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, its just your way of protecting yourself from letting some one else hurt you, but in return you are hurting yourself, just try to open up, take it slow, just be yourself with the lucky guy, and tell him you are shy, cause that is what it is, laughter is always a good way to loosen up, ask him to tell you a funny childhood story and then you share one, good luck sweetie
2006-12-12 12:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by mindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start by trusting yourself. you may not realize it now, but you dont trust your self, much less anyone else who comes into your life, take some time and try to be honest to yourself about everything. and eventually you will be able to trust other people bc you are not going to be worried about that wall, bc the wall is the trust with yourself.
2006-12-12 12:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a toughie...maybe u really haven't liked anyof these guys. i bet when the right one comes there will be no wall
2006-12-12 12:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by genius13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u just don't want your heart to be broken. just give your self a chance don't worry
2006-12-12 12:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just scared of being hurt.
2006-12-12 12:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by puih2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've probably been hurt one too many times so you're body naturally doesn't want that to happen again.. that's probably why..
2006-12-12 12:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋