2006-12-12 12:32:21 · 14 answers · asked by bluecatdaytona 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
An engagement is a promise to be married. A person cant say they are engaged but dont want to get married, they are total opposites. Either you are engaged or you arent. If you asked and they said yes, or they asked and you said yes, then you are engaged and should not have any reason for this type of treatment. Move on and find someone that will treat you with the honesty and courtesy you deserve. The only way an engagement should last that long is if BOTH people agree to it for whatever reasons they may have.
2006-12-12 12:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not have a fiancee for six years that doesn't want to get married. Stop redefining the dictionary. A fiancee is someone who wants to get married and has bought you a ring and has a date in mind.
2006-12-12 14:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then it sounds like you're not really engaged, are you?
To be engaged you should have a clear idea of your wedding date...not even a debate about whether you SHOULD get married!
I'm sorry, but you need to re-evaluate your relationship. Are you living together? It's time to move out. Are you sleeping together? Maybe it's time to stop. Your fiancee is getting what they want - and you aren't getting what YOU want. That's not good for your relationship, and it's certainly not fair. Until they realize how much this is hurting you he's not going to change.
2006-12-12 12:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you want to get married still? if you do and she doesn't then there is a problem. after 6 years she should be ready. i was engage for 5 years. we got engaged at 18 and both graduated from college before getting married. there was never a doubt that i wanted to marry him. we both just had to figure out the right time for us.
2006-12-14 06:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice: Time-out.
Do you both live together now? either yes or not, ask your partner what he/she wants. Then, give this person space w time-out. he/she will miss you, value you more, & even find out the reason why dont he/she wants to get married after engaged for 6 years already-trust me.
Just give your partner trust and time-out...
Good luck
2006-12-12 15:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT 6 YEARS OF BEING ENGAGED!! Call if off girl if he doesn't went to get married leave him he is no good. You have wasted your time! Move on! He is obviously scared of commitment.
2006-12-12 13:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why in the world are you even engaged for 6 years? That in itself is ridiculous. Move on. You can not get time back.
2006-12-12 13:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she may not be compleatly ready too she may be scared or may not be the marrying type- i think you should talk to her about it and figure out what the issue really is because what if she never wants to get married is that going to be ok with you?
2006-12-12 13:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by utopia760 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump them or get used to being NOT married. relationships, marriages in particular, don't last. enjoy the time you have with your partner. it may be over in 2 days or 2 years. good luck.
2006-12-12 17:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Juls 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't marry, the person obviously is not ready or sure of this important step in life.
2006-12-12 14:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋