Before he was with me, he was in a terrible relationship with another girl, which sort of took away all of his trust for people. Then, about a month after we started dating (over a year ago) I got really drunk when a promised him I wouldn't then tried to lie to him about it. We stayed together, but ever since then he's been very untrusting. He gets scared whenever I'm not around him and he gets mad at me if I don't answer my phone or come home at the time that I should. I truly love everything about him, except for this. How can I keep this one little thing from tearing us apart?
2006-12-12 12:20:16 · 10 answers · asked by uhyeah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try tricking him into crossdressing. Tell him there is a costume party to go to. Dress him up real pretty, and take lots of pictures. Put them in a safe place, and threaten to show them to everyone if he doesn't do as you wish.
2006-12-12 12:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ONE LITTLE THING?????!!!!!!!! WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU THINKIN DARLING?????
TRUST IS THE FOUNDATION OF ANY RELATIONSHIP AND TRUST IS NOT A RIGHT... IT IS EARNED WITH TRUSTWORTHY ACTIONS....
Trustworthy actions like:
1) LYING - If you lie to me (especially about something little) then I must assume you would lie about something you should lie about.. (A REALLY BIG THING)..
2) RESPONSIBILITY AND BEING RESPONSIBLE - If you say you're going to do something then you don't do it... How can I trust your word????
3) CONSIDER THIS: If you were out playing around... what would be so different in the way you act, the lies you tell, the trustworthiness of you word????
- Sorry but If I were the bf, I wouldn't even talk to you about this stuff I would just move on... What you described your actions to be are anything but little... No wonder he doesn't trust these actions... He would be a total fool and leave his emotions wide open for a cheater....
- Please take another look at what you said here... Especially if you do care about this guy... You will lose him when he gets tired of the negative emotions your actions are putting on him.
2006-12-12 12:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your not responsible for his past. you are responsible for getting drunk that time but he is responsible for forgiving you unless that drunkenness involved you driving a car ,
other then that this seems like the guy may have some control problems insecurity issues and jealousy .
i would suggest you think about all of this and take a look around you how many other possible suitors are there available if there is even just one consider going for a test ride you might find that one has fewer problems more pep and it a better fit .
2006-12-12 12:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesnt he trust you? DUH!! You broke your promise to him and to add insult to injury you freakin lied about it! That's NOT a little thing! Why dont girls trust guys most of the time? You've broken his trust and now he doesnt want to deal with what he had to in the past. Sounds like he went from one terrible relationship to another. The ball is in his court and what you can do is break up with him before he gets you really good and leaves you in tears.
2006-12-12 12:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by element_op 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know how to answer this, but I can tell you I'm in a similar situation. My boyfriend is recently divorced (his wife cheated on him when he was in Iraq) and now he is SO fixated on me answering my phone whenever he calls (even at 3am) and he got jealous when I had to do a project with another guy, even though I assured him we were set together by our professor. He always wants to know where I am and always says, "Please never hurt me, please be honest with me, " etc. I'm still earning his trust, but it's aggrivating because I have never cheated on anyone and never intend to, so I wish he could just relax!
2006-12-12 12:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by bebedejuin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for living together as a couple, trust is the 1st thing. So it may be very difficult for you to bear with his attitude in the future (after marriage or after started living together)
It is also impossible for him to change from that attitude. So why bother look for some one else.
2006-12-12 12:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Onceuponatime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're in the same boat! My boyfriend doesn't trust me, and he does the exact same thing, always expecting me to have my phone on my hip. And other things as well. Like someone up there said, I wish they'd just relax!
2006-12-12 12:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i know how this is. its the same with me only the opposite way around. there really isnt much you can do about it, he just has to learn to trust you and know that just because one relationship was bad doesnt mean all the rest will be. hope everything works out okay.
2006-12-12 12:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by KristenF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he making you pay for the sins of his ex, dump him! He's too possesive anyway, he should get a life...
2006-12-12 12:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u did anything to create doubt in his trust then he might just be sharpened from his ex..not to get duped again..u know??
2006-12-12 12:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋