Today, I found out that this guy I only knew for a few days and is one grade above me likes me, alot. He added me on Myspace a few days ago and I only see him for like ... two minutes at school.
Today, he asked me if I wanted to go out. I rejected him. He thought it was because of the commitment that I would have to take and he said that he would be a good boyfriend.
I told him that it wasn't about the commitment, but because I didn't like him that way. I just wanted to be friends. He said that he wasn't very sad, but I am really worried about him.
Has anyone here been in a situation similiar to this boy, and knows how he feels? I'm so worried about him right now.
2006-12-12 12:17:39 · 4 answers · asked by Confused... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's difficult to say. But given what else you've said, I'd bet he feels like dying. The fondness he had for you was too strong for such an early stage. I know you didn't mean to hurt him like that. It's not your fault, really. I have been in that situation, when I was a freshman in high school. Hmmm . . . I ended up in counseling for depression and I also developed a minor (as in, not life threatening -- only health threatening) eating disorder because I thought being thinner would make people like me more. It happened a couple of other times similarly, but that had to be the worst. Now I'm a dating expert, but in high school I was totally clueless and I got depressed about it often.
I'm afraid there isn't much you can do about it. You shouldn't go out with him unless you're interested in him, but you should try to be his friend. Also, I recommend you point out to him that you barely knew him before he asked you out and that was part of the reason you rejected him -- you didn't know if you two could get along.
I'd bet he doesn't have a single female friend either. So, it would help him if you'd at least be his friend and point him in the right direction. Namely, tell him that he's being too desperate and that scares girls away. Try to get him to be more confident, or whatever you can to help him out. For example, if he's not very fashionable, or there's something that makes him look bad that could be improved, you could point that out to him. You might be able to hook him up with one of your friends after you have him straightened out. Be patient with him though . . . he will probably have some expectation that you might become more than a friend eventually. Good luck!
2006-12-12 12:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably at home crying right now, you more than likely crushed the boy's feelin's so hope your happy, emotionaly scared him for life, but the good thing about it is that it will make him stronger so dont worry to much about him he obviously asked you out because he really liked you or had a crush on you and he followed his heart and got up the nerve to ask you and you shot him down.
2006-12-12 12:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by colvin0594 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty bad and feeling unwanted. Sometimes feelings of unattractiveness
2006-12-12 12:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Michael S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably feeling down in the dirt.
2006-12-12 12:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by DannyC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋