ok, I asked her out 3 weeks ago and she said yes. Everything was fine till her ex BF found out (she went out with him for a yr till he cheated on her) and all of a sudden he starts telling her how he wants her back. So, a week or so ago she told me that she still has feelings for him, but she likes me too and she honestly is SOO confused. I told her its her decision, not mine because i want to be with her and she knows that. My cuz has been in the same situation as my GF and told me that in her case she broke up with her new BF and they just stayed friends. Until she was ready and realised that she didnt want her ex anymore and just wanted to be with her new BF. I dont know whats going to happen...any advice or experiences? I just want a long and stable relationship and im hoping she decides that shes willing to commit. In her words "like i dont even know what im goin through rite now,i cant make it out exactly,i duno wtf im feeling"..."i dunno wtf i want"....sigh..what a situation
2006-12-12 12:16:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a girl can't make up her mind about a future, she obviously hasn't considered the future yet. She is not seeming to be aware that you have a future in mind and she herself is not seeming to grasp the idea of "one love, one life" yet. This is a matter of her life and a show of how mature she is.
Do not try to "outdo" her ex. She should be left to make her decision and live with it. If she choses him, remember it and back down. Let her contact you first, then, slowly become her friend after you can think of her as one again.
Do not try to get her to leave him for you. Someday she'll find "something better" than you and leave you for it again. Do not seem like you are always going to be a lap dog for her to fall back on whenever she wants to; Make her make her bed and sleep in it to learn lessons about decisions.
Love her no matter what, just don't hang yourself for her.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 11:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by SweetSoulX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you need to do
Give her some space. Some talking to her for a little while, and just let her decide what she wants to do. If she chooses to be with her lose ex-boyfriend, let her...that is a rediculous thing to do...She would basically be saying that she was stupid and looking for a guy to play her if she did that.
The chances of that actually happening are slim. Give her this time to have some space (don't talk to her on the phone, internet, etc.) and have some fun of your own. Hang out with your friends and stuff and enjoy being single for a while. Let her have the time without her ex boyfriend and you in her life to make the decision that will affect HER life. Do this for her, not you.
2006-12-12 20:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You're not alone
2. She's the one missing out on something special
She will eventually realize, like ur cousin, that u were right for her and her ex is a big jerk.. let her figure it out, if you try to stop her, you'll just seem like the jealous ex type...
I don't exactly know what to tell u, but do whatever you feel is right..
2006-12-12 20:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would take her to a romantic dinner and talk things over and say like i have feelings for you and i dont want to loose you but its your decision and i respect that but i just want the best for u
2006-12-12 20:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by slick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man, forget about her
go out right now and find a new girl.
2006-12-12 20:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kewl guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it!! stay far away from her!! Anytime an ex is involved its always bad news. You dont need that!!
2006-12-12 20:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋