I have been dating my boyfriend for three years now. He loves me dearly, would do anything for me, and would give up any and everything for me. He is a really good guy. I can't say anything bad about him. He has a good future ahead of him... and he has already told me that he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. There is one problem: my boyfriend is not the same ethnicity as I am and my mother refuses to meet him because of this (after three years). We have been dating three years now and this has always been our biggest problem. I love him so much and I dont want to give him up but my mom refuses to meet him and I am scared to death that my mom wont come to my wedding day if we were ever to get married. The rest of my family and friends have met him and they all like him a lot. He cherishes me and I can truly see myself with him raising a family, but I cant get my mom to meet him. I have fought with her about it hundreds of times and I dont know what to do... please help!!!
2006-12-12 12:08:33 · 8 answers · asked by krazypoetic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only time, and maybe a grandchild will melt her racist heart.
2006-12-12 12:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 12:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by brenneman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to give you an answer that you would see in the movies where your mom would meet your boyfriend and he'd do something great and then they'd get along perfectly, but that's probably not the case... a lot of people like that won't change for anybody, not even their daughter. You can somehow set up a surprise meeting to where she might have to talk to him... but she probably won't change her mind...
2006-12-12 12:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all that matters is the two of you love each other and want to be together. after 3 years and you're mother still will not meet him, it comes a time where you need to say that is her problem, because you are happy.
2006-12-12 12:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do since it's your mom that hates him, the most that your guy can do is send gifts to your mom and just continue on loving you :) don't worry there's a huge chance that your mom might come around when she learns that she'll be a grandma :)
2006-12-12 12:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by JK Sy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really as good as you say, you're mom is just going to have to accept it.
2006-12-12 12:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom that u truly love him and exprese ur feelings to her tell her how u feel about him she will understand
2006-12-12 12:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mum hasnt met him???
2006-12-12 12:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by GROOVY LILY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋