i have had 2 possible relationships with guys, but never a bf.
both possibles was where we both liked each other, but he never asked me out. they both suggestes movies and such, but have never acted on it. they would soon (within 3 or so weeks of the signs of them liking me) decide they don't like me anymore.
they just stop liking me randomly. and i dont remember anything that happened between the two events that would change their minds.
do most guys do this? is it something i could have done? is it something i should have done but didnt do?
ive never had a bf, so idk how the whole steps to become a gf thing works. if an experienced teen could make a timeline or soemthing, they would recieve best anwer or a thumbs up or something.
2006-12-12 12:03:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
......its you.
2006-12-12 12:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, I don't think most guys do that. Hmmm . . . two guys doing something doesn't quite make a trend. Lots of guys are shy, but I don't really know how well they liked you so I don't know if they stopped trying because they were shy. About all I can tell you is to ask the guy out next time. It will usually help to do that. Good luck!
Oh yeah . . . pay attention to what mrvid2002 had to say. I don't like the way he puts down men by saying that we have short attention spans, but he's right on that most guys consider going to a movie to be a date. And he's also right that if you didn't show enough enthusiasm about going, you scared them away. It couldn't hurt to suggest a time either. Some girls will agree to go out on dates, or say that they'd like to, and never seem to agree to a specific time. That's because they don't really want to go, but can't stand to say no. Good luck!
2006-12-12 20:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll probably get kicked out of "the club" for saying this, but the male human has a very short attention span--hardly a match for our huge egos. You contradict yourself in a way by saying "You were never asked out...but you were asked to go to a movie." To a guy, a movie IS asking someone out. For better or worse, that is considered a "date" by most men. If you declined or even acted the least bit disinterested in this offer, these guys were most likely frightened off.
The best relationships always--ALWAYS--start with respect, honesty and trust. If you have to guess, you're probably not with the right person.
Find someone who isn't afraid to tell you exactly how they feel about you. When you care about someone, you shouldn't have to guess about what's on their minds. Good luck to you.
2006-12-12 20:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by mrvid2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect too much from guys... guys don't think about things like girls do. Girls take things in emotionally and guys do things randomly. I would say they were probably interested in you but then figured that you weren't exciting enough. But that shouldn't be a reason you change. Stay the person that you are and have someone like you for who you really are not someone that you want to be like. You're young you have alot of time to figure guys out.
2006-12-12 20:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Destinee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BE YOUR BEST SELF.. first, then the rest will naturally unfold
in your life. Don't keep being Pre-occupied. "A watched pot,
never boils, remember that? Watch your studies, stay clean,
and MORAL...alive, and participate in many things,..as you can
without jepardising your grades. I am assuming you are in High
School.? If not correct me, but the advice still remains the same.
Put yourself where GOOD GUYS are at. Not just "get me guys"
mind set all the time. GOOD GUYS, you must search out...
and don't take just any old guy....who sparks at you. Get the
ones with Integrity, Morality, Personality. ...Plus. Intelligence!
"Compassionate" ones, not just passionate....types.
talk to daddy...about this one/.
2006-12-12 20:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Gondoliza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know the age of these guys, but in todays society, a lot of them lack social graces. They do not take relationships seriously like girls do....but......they seem to be most scared away when you start to act tooo interested or shall we say, desperate. Have enough confidence in yourself, in your friends, hobbies, family relationships and goals for life. You become a better you, not a needy you, and that is always more appealing...
2006-12-12 20:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Cici M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you come off a bit to clingy...Guys do not like girls that over-analyze situations (which most girls do)...
Maybe you should try having guys come onto you, then you do not call them, and you let them chase you for a while. Play a little hard to get, instead of just expecting that they ask you out.
The chase is EVERYTHING. It determines how the relationship will be and who will have the dominance.
2006-12-12 20:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They must have thought you didn't like them ... but, and I'm just saying this because I'm an old fashioned kind of guy, if the guy is not willing to wait for more than a month then he's not worth it cause he doesn't put too much effort in pursuing you :)
2006-12-12 20:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by JK Sy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When they asked about the movies and such that was probably like a first date for them. Things miight have progressedfrom there.
2006-12-12 20:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply wait for the right guy to come a callin.. This may take time but the best things are worth waiting for. Keep your standards high and place boundries that men shouldn't cross and keep those boundries and please remember that men need to be respected.
2006-12-12 21:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by fe2bsho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget trying to be a gf and start just being a friend. You seem to be in a rush for something.
2006-12-12 20:12:22 · answer #11 · answered by Bullfrog21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋