im 15 and we have been together for about 1 and 1/2 months he tells me all the time how pretty i am and hot and great personality and that he was ready for sex... and he told me that if i wasent ready that he would wait. but i am, AND im not. i need help to make a decision. you can e-mail me at sugarcraze09@yahoo.com thank you.
2006-12-12 12:01:49 · 19 answers · asked by LiveItUp09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you have to think about it and you are not sure then you are not ready.
2006-12-12 12:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're 110% sure, you're not ready.
One and a half months is really nothing...why not wait for six months? That's longer than most high school relationships, so there's a good chance you two might not make it that long. Wouldn't it suck if you gave up your virginity to a guy that broke up with you a month later? Ouch.
Lastly, if you convince yourself you're ready for this...make sure that you're on birth control AND that you understand how it works. Most birth control takes a full month of use (or more) to kick in, so you're not protected until then. A baby would seriously set back your life, trust me.
2006-12-12 12:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't even began to tell you all the things that you would have to think about.. being only 15 your body has yet developed.. I'm 22 and I'm studying in the medical feild.. women don't develope all the way until there about 19-22, if you decide to have sex now it can ruin the process... your body is not ready to take that kind of action.. not only that but there are risk to get dieases..aids... most importantly you can get pergo.. and that totally will suck sure you can use a condom.. but let me tell you that no protection in this world would give you a 100% .. that 1% might kick you right in the butt..
don't believe me.. hear me out.. I'm 22 ok and last summer I lost it.. for tons of stupids reasons.. I regret it sooo much now looking back because I scared myself.. thinking I was prego one day.. my ex and I were having sex when he pulled out he was like uh ho.. and I was like what.. he told me not to worry but I had to I didn't want that to mean anything.. 7 days later I went running to a clinic.. and I tried to get pills to kill the sperm they told me that I couldn't it was too late... I sat there crying think omg! what did I do.. I wasn't ready to have a kid I still was in college living with my parents.. most importantly I knew with all my heart I didn't want the baby with my ex..
suddenly I found myself wondering how to get rid of the baby.. I thought what if I accidently fell down or smoked whiched I had never.. I always thought about having a family one day.. I also remember seeing babies and just wanting one of my own.. but at that moment everything change and I became someone I didn't know.. I never want to go thru that again thankfully I wasn't.. but I learn my lesson.. honey if I could I would wait.. but it is your decision do what you know is right for you but I'm telling you babgirl you don't want to scare yourself.. you have a life ahead of you.. and he's young he's not gonna want to stay with one girl all his life turst.. all the best girl
2006-12-12 12:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Miss Mimzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont do it. You're way too young. And its not even about the age. If you are alrady doubting then dont go through with it because i cried when i lost my virginity and I was 18 . It does not matter how long you guys have been together either, its when you are ready you will know and plus it wont be planned out which ruins it.
2006-12-12 12:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by tragickingdom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 15. Definitely not ready. You've only been dating for 1 and a half months...that's way to soon. Save yourself for marriage....you will definitely thank yourself in the long run. Besides..if you don't know if your ready or you are having second thoughts...you are defiantly NOT ready!
2006-12-12 12:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by em<3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not, if you have any doubts about it.
Can you handle a pregnancy if it occurs?
Can you handle an STD if it occurs?
Can you get on a reliable form of birth control and take it properly?
Can you make sure good quality condoms are available and being used properly?
Can you deal with the emotions that come from being physically intimate with someone?
If you said no, or have doubts about any of the above...you aren't ready.
2006-12-12 12:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't give this adult a lot of confidence that you will do the right thing...but here's something to think about....if YOU are NOT ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY 100% ready for this experience then tell him stop pressuring you to have sex. GOOD GAWD girl you're only FIFTEEN!!!!!! are you ready to risk your future by letting some hot-to-trot pecker head pressure you to get into your knickers? PLEASE say NO and keep saying it until you meet the GUY you WANT to make love with and for the rest of your life.
2006-12-12 12:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by GAValkRider 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just 15, don't rush it with this guy... you've only known him for 1 and 1/2 months, you'll break up with him eventually and regret having sex with him. Just don't do it, he'll get over it and find some other girl to manipulate.
2006-12-12 12:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you have any doubt in the back of your mind, don't do it. You're still young. You should give yourself more time to enjoy life as an adolescent and the usual teenage stuff. If you guys break up, you'll forever regret it!
2006-12-12 12:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey.. 1 1/2 months is way too soon for sex.. especially if you are only 15.
love should come first.. and then sex.. it takes time to develop love and trust..
if you do want to get physical start with passionate kissing.. and work you way up slowly..
2006-12-12 12:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure then you are not ready! You should go talk to your mom. She will help you through this. At least my mom did!
2006-12-12 12:04:56 · answer #11 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋