I'm addicted. She is a good friend of mine, and I loved her as a friend. (until this time last year, I fell in love) I met her 3 years ago and I've felt a strong bond with her. Last November, I asked her out. She said no. I tried again this past summer, she said no. She's amazing and I want to marry her. I still hang out with her and we talk often. Her boyfriend abuses her and cheats on her.. all around *** hole... He's dumped her before to date some other girl, but she convinced him to go back out with her. Do some girls just love to be abused?
2006-12-12 12:00:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not that she likes to be abused. It is just that she thinks she can "fix" him. And their "love" will get her through it and everything will be all right in the end. But in this situation you just need to try and be able to be there when she needs to talk to someone and convince her that she is worth so much more and she is loved and respected by her friends and family and you just want to help her. and you care about her safety. But listen, this is very important! Do not try to hit on her or ask her out until she is good and strong again. I hope I helped you and send her my best wishes!
2006-12-12 12:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls are scared to leave an abusive relationship but then again don't want to be single. That is probably why she convinced him to go back out with her. But to be in an abusive relationship, she needs to get some help or else one day, may be her last!
2006-12-12 20:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is that. I had to read this twice because it sounds like my story. Now, my issue was that I was never used to rejection. I always got what I wanted and when I met this one guy I started liking him a lot but then he started treating me bad. He would call me names, talk to other girls, and on and on and on. Anyhow, I wasn't used to a guy leaviinng me so I stayed tried to get him back becuase " No man was going to just reject me". I did like him but it was mostly the fact that no man was going to reject me so I stuck around. Now that lasted for two years. The guy that I dated before him, we dated for 6 years and were engaged. I left him for the mean guy. When I left the mean guy two years later, I went back to the good guy and now we are married. A lot happened in between. My husband and I had a very damaged relationship due to the hurt. But as far as being abused, no, but we don't like rejection and we will stay to get the guy to pay us attention. A smart lady will not stick around for it too long though..
2006-12-12 20:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Reghan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question about us girls loving to be abused, is "Hell No"... I was once in that relationship, but it was more like the other way around... I left my ex 4 times, and like an idiot I took him right back... but anyhow... I can totally see her point... she loves him so much that it hurts... she thinks she can change him... but in reality she can't... in able for her to change him, he has to change himself.. no one can... but as for you... don't rush into it... I mean, I can understand dat you are in love wit' her or what ever... but my advise for you, is slow down... I think that you should put your feelings for her on the side and right now, jus' be her friend... because all she needs right now, is a friend.. someone she can talk too about her problem and a shoulder to cry on... kuz' it seems like she's going thru' hell wit' that other guy... so... all you can do is jus' be there for her..... she'll come around... be a friend....
2006-12-12 20:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by MINA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not addicted. You're a rescuer.
This girl needs you more as a friend right now than a boy friend.
Wait until she discovers that she deserves better than what she's been settling for. Good luck.
2006-12-12 20:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by beekiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an interesting question! I think some girls thrive on abuse! I don't understand why, though! But who understands women anyway? (Just kidding ladies! I love you all! )
2006-12-12 20:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they may not like abuse but maybe she feels for this guy what you feel for her. She may not be strong enough to be without him, in the way that you don't want to be without her.
2006-12-12 20:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't like to be abused...
This guy has probably also brainwashed her into thinking she can't live without him and all that crazy stuff....
2006-12-12 20:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if some other girls like abuse because i don't. maybe they are not concious of what's happeining. i would recommend you to move on. because she might not deserve you.
2006-12-12 20:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by true-mysteryfrom chinese wish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk what she is thinking but sometimes a girll just need to feel loved. but she is just over the top. i know it will be extremely hard but you need to slowly ease away from her. this might be impossible, but you can try to find someoine else
i hope this helps and i know this will be hard but good luck
2006-12-12 20:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋